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30 Day Journal – Mental Health


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Day 1

How am I feeling right now?

Have you ever asked this question to yourself? We wait for our loved one to ask us this question whenever we are feeling low or lonely and left out? But at times we are left disappointed as all are busy with their own respective lives and problems solving it for their own self.

So the best way is to love your own company and own self. You will never feel left out. Whenever you feel uneasy about anything and loaded with the negative thoughts – just spare time with your own self. Ask yourself ‘How am I feeling right now?’ Why am I feeling like this? Answers to such questions will definitely lead you to a solution and make you feel better. Do whatever makes you feel better. Maybe they are simple things in life. But if that is giving you peace and makes you happy, why not! Go for it!

Try all that either you have forgotten or you think might not help you, because those are the things that only will or might help you. Like go for a walk, eat your favourite ice-cream or chocolate, call someone whom you are missing at that weak moment or you haven’t called for a long time, watch a movie, listen to music or just go to sleep becoming a lazy bum :)!

At times when you are feeling low, you might ask yourself ‘Why am I living?’ I will be discussing this in my day two journal.

Day 2

What is making you feel how you feel right now?

Let’s continue… Giving the feed to the brain yes I want you to ask yourself ‘What is making you feel how you feel right now?’ Here I am considering both the facts – like two sides of a coin. You might be feeling happy or you might be feeling sad! So go deep into the process of analysing why this side of your emotions got triggered and what are the sentiments or emotions behind it.

Getting happy is understood and acceptable as not much rocket science needs to be applicable. But the other side definitely needs attention. At the time of being upset you might end up asking the question ‘Why am I living’? Consider this as an important question for yourself and acknowledge it with positivity. Don’t ignore it or sit and crib else you will only be pushed towards the deep valley of negativity leading to stress and depression – causing a disaster.

At this stage you might not find a purpose of living if you think about it. Gradually you will understand and have a motto as well as a mission for the same. If still you don’t get an answer – drill this into your mind that my first purpose of living is ‘LEARNING’! Learning cannot and should not be stopped.

Second is ‘IMPROVING’. Keep on improving yourself to make your life extra beautiful. But again you might end up asking why and what should I improve? So, here the simple logic and answer that you need to keep answering yourself is ‘to have proper future plans and for their improvements’.

The third one is ‘SHARING’. Here, the question you will ask is ‘How do you share and why do share what you have?’ There are ample people in this world who are in adversity. They need your help. If you have the desire and passion to help them out, you must first have enough skills for yourself.

Therefore, first comes ‘LEARNING’, then ‘IMPROVING’ and lastly ‘SHARING’.

So, All in all, to know yourself is one of the main reasons to not let yourself down!

See you at DAY 3 Journal 🙂

Day 3

If you could change one thing about how you feel right now, what would it be?

Answer this question yourself first in the journal before you scroll down. Note it down. If you want to help yourself and feel energetic/good/relaxed/complete/thankful. 🙂

If you have a BAD DAY this is how you feel, isn't it?

The supply of available curse words are insufficient to meet my demands!

I am sure 99% will be unhappy with something or the other with themselves and start making a list for themselves what they want to change. Try it yourself! A long list would be waiting like ‘I am unhappy with my life, my face, my nose, my skin, my legs, my family, my friends, my job, my career, my marriage, my children, etc etc’…

But have you ever given this a thought that these are all materialistic things. These are not permanent. With age and time everything fades. Why do we think negative only when this question is asked!

I don’t say or debate that you should not feel upset or sad! NO! My point here is yes be real with your emotions but don’t get drowned in them. Patience is the calm acceptance that things can happen in a different order than the one you had in your mind. For every lost opportunity, find solace knowing there is a way out and you definitely can make things alright. Have that solid confidence in yourself.

I can list down here how and what should be done when you are feeling low but I won’t do it till you do what I have mentioned below. As in Day 4, you will be answering yourself once I start the topic. As here we are maintaining a journal for you to help yourself. For preaching unlimited stuff is available in the forms of books, videos, audios, write-ups, messages… So I don’t want to be the one doing the same thing in different a manner.

Now, can you be different from the herd? If not try at least. List down the things you are happy with. Feel the difference then. Be thankful for what you have rather than what you want to change!

See you on Day 4 🙂

Day 4

Explain one thing that you’re ‘GRATEFUL’ for right now!

Starting the Day with a Positive vibes and a positive note, tell me have you note down the things that were asked in yesterday’s Journal? Well if you have then I am sure you must have slept feeling peaceful. So today we will continue here with the same topic. Now from your list of answers what is that ‘One Thing’ you are most GRATEFUL for right now

I agree we need to be grateful for everything in our lives then be it materialistic things or not. Being grateful opens the door for more opportunities.

So, exercise done? Then only scroll down! And read my point of view 🙂

Why limit yourself to one particular thing each day?

Did you thought this way before listing down your one thing to grateful for right now?

The goal and focus should be as much gratitude as possible for as many things as you can and as often as possible. Expand your focus broadly enough and it will be easy to find much more than one thing to be grateful for in your day to day life, GUARANTEED!

Here if I have to share my experience I will start with: "I am grateful for a wide range of things everyday!"

Each morning, when I wake up, I am grateful to have the experience of being alive in such a magnificent, awe-inspiring universe.

I am grateful to be surrounded by love and support. I am grateful that I can share my life with people who cherish me and who I cherish. I am grateful to have been born into a society that’s progressive. I am grateful that my parents, particularly my mother, did a bang-up job of raising me and instilled in me a sense of self-efficacy.

I have an amazing life. I like being me, even if some bits of being me are frustrating sometimes. I am grateful for it all.

Have you ever thought of it this way?

I will share an activity that I have been practising for several years. The first thing I do every morning when I get up is to get out my small notebook that I have kept next to my bed and write down three things that I am grateful for that moment. As I am doing these for several years now, I am sure I’ve repeated myself several times, but I try to make something different everyday so that nothing is left out to be grateful from my life and my subconscious mind. I started this practice when I was going through a terrible time, feeling not getting enough of what I deserve and desire. As said it is easy to feel stressed, upset, and depressed when it seems things aren’t right for us! This tip I had read on some blog and decided to try it out. I am glad it worked 🙂

There are still plenty of stressors and issues in my life that I am working to remedy. But what changed as a direct result of this practice is my attitude and outlook. So I can share this today that even with a stressful day ahead of you, it really does make a difference to start the day on a positive note. Later I didn’t limit myself to the mornings. I kept writing down for every small thing happening to be grateful for throughout the entire day.

By making an effort to focus on gratitude throughout the day, it began to become an automatic habit in the brain. Feeling grateful feels a hell lot better than feeling angry, bored, frustrated, depressed or any other emotion from the dark side of the force. The habit is self-perpetuating. In any situation, even the unpleasant ones, you can find something to be grateful for.

So now share with me your experience of being ‘GRATEFUL’ by commenting back. I am waiting for it 🙂 And just a hint: Day 5 is gonna be different and more thrilling. Get yourself ready for it ;).

Day 5

Explain the sensations in your body right now – be specific!

Now this is tricky as well as a straight question. While answering don’t restrict yourself. Let your emotions float. When was it last when you had thought about the sensation in your body, taking out time for yourself?

Most of the time, fulfilling our duties in life with a lot of responsibilities we tend to forget ourselves and our emotions especially the sensations our body goes through…

Take this opportunity to feel the sensations your body is feeling right now! Feel it. Live it.

Sensations could be anything since long you haven’t felt or want to feel now. Go for it!

Share yours once you are done for Day 5 and I will share mine 🙂

Okay! Now my turn! Sensation right now that OI am feeling right now is ‘Contemplate’!

A sensation is:
  • The operation or function of senses: Perception of awareness of stimuli through the senses. Perception can be subjective.
  • 2. A mental condition or physical feeling resulting from stimulation of a sense organ or from internal bodily change, as cold or pain.

So a sensation is a feeling whether its from a touch or smell or taste. As for a thought, a thought in and of itself can’t be a sensation. But they can create sensations. Like thinking that ‘You are on a beach and feeling the sand below your toes even though you are at home’.

This is how true and strong emotions for somebody or something create a high impact on our lives with high sensitivity of sensations 🙂

Day 6

Write down one worry you have right now?

It’s important. Whether you implement it or not. Write down the worry you have right now, in your life! I could have started the write-up with ‘Do you have worry right now’? But I didn’t because we as humans definitely cannot live and lead our lives without worrying for anything or something. Our subconscious mind is always surrounded by it, whether we want it or not! I am not going into the classification or detailing of it, No! I just want you to write it down!

By writing it down

  1. It will be out from your chest.
  2. You will be able to focus on it.
  3. You will feel committed.
  4. You will believe in yourself.
  5. You will get direction and a feeling of self-fulfilment.
  6. It will help you answer the questions of your life’s purpose.

Write it down with with the help of:

  • Insecurity
  • negativism
  • anxiety
  • worrying

Here is the reflective exercise that will help you once you write it down:

  • Help you deal with your feelings.
  • Help you deal with fairness in your life.
  • Forgive
  • Let go
  • Feel Empathy
  • Feel Gratitude
  • Help you resolve conflicts.


You are not the only one with worry or worries! Please keep this in mind. Everyone lives through life with negative experiences and emotions.

The way you deal with those negative experiences and emotions is the real key to HAPPINESS.

So, Here the exercise that I am offering you to do is to describe your one worry from your day also as if you are the 3rd person watching it.

It is easy to get upset when we are all ‘I’ but the whole scene might change when we let go of the ‘I’ and try to look at the matter objectively. This exercise will help you unwind and live a more peaceful, happier life.

It’s a tendency to keep a bunch of notes as well as worries in the mind and heart. That’s not healthy! By writing down everything you need to attend to, you free your mind from distractions and let it be free.

The bottom line with this exercise is to stop remembering and start writing.

Just get it down on paper and out from your MIND.

Once you have done you will notice how much easier it is to look at your ‘WORRY’ and resolve it.

By writing down your worry you will achieve:

  • Improved quality of sleep.
  • Better productivity.
  • More positivity.
  • Less Headaches.
  • Less Stress.

This exercise has the power to:

  • Show you how great your life is…
  • Motivate you when you are down.
  • Create more victories in your life.
  • Improve your overall happiness and life satisfaction.
Try this out for yourself and share your results... If not with me at least with your own self!

Day 7

Now write down 3 logical ways to think about that worry?

In the day 6 a brief explanation is given on ‘Worry’! So am sure you must have followed and understood the root causes of it. So, today I want you to start with thinking three logical ways to think about that worry that you have pen down on Day 6.

I will help you here:

  • Do you think logically
  • Do you think mentally
  • Do you think emotionally
  • Do you think rationally
  • Is it really necessary and required

Let me share with you that ‘Worry’/’Stress’ are silent killers. Don’t allow them to make a home in you!

  • Letting/Allowing fear or anxiety of the future paralyzing you is BAD.
  • Hoarding things that others need because you will want it in future is BAD.
  • Not preparing for the obvious need in future is also BAD.
  • Trying to control the future is BAD.

One cannot stop from worrying! But thinking it rationally helps you get a solution for a better and healthy life 🙂

Next topic of Journal is interesting as well as strongly recommended for your Mental Health so stay tuned!

Day 8

What do you need to let go of in your life right now?

As we have discussed a lot of worries now comes the connectivity about what you need to let go of from your life right now! Think about it. Think ‘HARD’. Think about what is causing you pain. Think that is ‘Stopping you from progressing’. At times we keep things or memories close to our hearts which needs to be let go. It maintains a healthy habit of decluttering. Not required should be removed from life. Then be it in the form of materialistic things or memories stored from the past! Make sufficient space for ‘NEW’.

Let go of your Worries, Ego, Overthinking, Anger and Revenge as it will not take you anywhere in your life. Act now, as immature people can only criticise. Let go of the past, make peace with it instead!

Ask yourself ‘Why’ I need to let go of this right now in my life? I Am sure you will hear an answer for yourself from within you:

For a better future and inner peace.

Think. It could be anything like:

  • Your Past
  • Your Friends who betrayed you.
  • Regretting mistakes that you have made.
  • False image that you have in your head made by some people around you.
  • Something that happened with you without your consent.
"Don't let yesterday take up too much of today" - Will Rogers

Holding on to good memories is never harmful but holding on to bad memories can be just detrimental.

Day 9

What can you do to improve your mental health today?

Have you ever taken out time for yourself doing this exercise or thought about it? If not then this the time! Do it right now. List down things you can do for your mental health like we do for our physical health by doing exercises, yoga, walking, meditation along with maintaining healthy eating habits. Equally mental health is important. It should not be ignored at any cost. Everyone has their own unique ways. So tell me today what will you do to improve your mental health?

I will help you by my TOP 10 here to improve your overall Mental Health:

  1. Keep Away From Toxic People. They will infect you in the ways you cannot imagine.
  2. Stay Grateful. No matter where you are in life, or what is happening, be aware there are always people struggling more than you are. It keeps a positive perspective.
  3. Make Time for Things You Love. Hard to do, but indeed very important. I am sure you must be having a hobby for which you must have not given time for! Be it reading, writing, watching movies/series, listening to music, playing guitar, painting, driving, or any thing that you love… Make it a priority.
  4. Stay Physically Healthy as much as possible. Go to your yearly and regular medical check ups even if you don’t feel like it, do physical therapies if you need to, take medication if you are supposed to be taking it. If you have an addiction – Address it.
  5. Sleep. At least 6 to 8 hours. As you know it’s recommended for overall good health. If you’ve ever had bad nights of sleep, you know how they can cripple your mood and functioning. Sleeping well helps you stay well Mentally.
  6. Examine how you Think. What’s your automatic response to events, people or situations – is it positive or negative? Try to examine how you approach the world and challenge yourself to see the potential even in tough situations, rather than the detriments. Over time, it gets natural to see the positive effects in your behaviour.
  7. Get Active. You don’t have to be a CrossFit warrior. What is needed here is that you should move everyday – take a walk, go for cycling, swimming, any other outdoor sports, or hit the gym but keep in mind LEAVE THE MOBILE BEHIND!
  8. Make time for Friends. Laughing and getting out of your own headspace is important. Make time to socialise with friends, get out of the house and make it a priority.
  9. Do things for Others. Helping others will help you back. It will make you feel good. A small gesture of help can be absolutely a big game-changer.
  10. See Food as Fuel. If you power your body with terrible things, it’s going to feel a lot more terrible than it needs to. Try to limit processed foods, sugar, and fried foods. Stick with healthier options as much as you can. It helps your brain, your mood, and your attention span!

So this is it for today. See you at Day 10 🙂

Day 10

Write down three things that you achieved today and how they made you feel?

Well I could have tweaked this question like ‘Write down three things that you have achieved TILL today and how they made you feel?’ But I have refrained myself from doing that! Simple reason I want you to think of today. We have been working on day to day basics with sensitive topics in our 30 Day Journal here. So, yes note down things you have achieved today.

I have been practising all the questions myself and have seen the tremendous change in myself, my lifestyle and my thinking. So go for it. Be true to yourself!

I can answer for myself here one thing for sure after my achievements, that I get ‘Happiness’. Achievements aren’t defined here. So don’t be in a trap! It could be anything as of the day. For example for me it’s simple: watering my indoor plants and cleaning them is the biggest achievement of my day! As I am with nature and nurturing them, see them bloom and blossom. The satisfaction that I get and feel, no comparison with anything else. I am into my own world at that time. But we as humans are different from each other, so might be you must be having different emotions. Think about it and express it.

Everyone is chasing happiness, but only few know from where it comes from. Happiness is not a goal. Instead, you get to travel everyday. Here, I will be sharing a few QUOTES ABOUT HAPPINESS and smiles that will inspire you. Being happy with who you are and what you are is the only thing that can make you happy, not what people expect you to be.

Live Life Short Quotes

  • Judge your success with what you had to give up in order to win.

– The Dalai Lama

  • Tourists are always waiting for inspiration, we all just get up and go to work.

– Stephen King

  • The sun went down. You have failed. It doesn’t matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail it better.

– Samuel Beckett

  • To be successful in life, you need two things: ignorance and confidence.

– Mark Twain

  • A successful road is always being built.”

– Lily Tomlin

  • Success goes…from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.

– Winston Churchill

  • Don’t wait. Time will not be right.

– Napoleon Hill

  • Success is largely a matter of holding back when others have given up.

– Unknown

  • Low self-esteem is like driving a life with a broken arm.

 Maxwell Malts

Note:

Don’t categorise achievements as something which is visible or somewhere related to money. When we read success stories of Bill Gates, Ambani, Warren Buffet, we think that they have achieved something in their lives. And if this is the scenario we can say that our mothers are housewives and have failed to achieve anything in their life. Although, they are the one who make our house a home. Going with the flow, I will say achievements are not which can be seen through medals, trophies, and money. I am not saying being successful is not an achievement, but whatever you get in life, accepting it is an achievement. You achieve something when you get contentment with something.

See ya! Stay Blessed!

Day 11

Talk about the happiest time of your life.

So, here you are! How often do you talk about your happiest time with your loved ones? Do you keep sharing it? In a way keep remembering it? When you talk about your happiest time, events, gathering, achievements and so on and on… it makes the heart feel complete and at peace. It’s like there is so much in life to look forward to. When you share your happiest time – you leave stories behind for your generation to share with the upcoming generation and so on and on! You never know who is getting inspired by your aspirations. Just talk it out!

There can be absolutely thousands of things to make your day, to make your life happy one, even if not many great things are happening in your life. But the most important thing is your ‘Attitude towards your life’. How you see your life and things around you. If you have the right attitude, you will be happy even in your worst of the situations.

The key to happiness is in many things, not just one.
The First one is Simplicity. You should always enjoy simple things in your life, no matter what. Don’t aspire for bigger things. Look around you, observe things, experience the beauty of serene nature, the sunrise, sunset, million stars in the night, feel the cool breeze of wind in the morning and evening time, feel the rain, feel how it feels to sleep like a child in the cold wintry days. Spend time with family, with children, love some pet animal, a dog, cat or anything.
Ever heard people speaking in interviews to their friends after they have survived a tragedy, had a “life altering experience”.. They go like this, ‘Now I am more aware of myself’. And now I have started appreciating smaller, simple things in life. I have a new attitude towards life.’ This is the story of many, people don’t appreciate things until they are struck with such tragedies. Don’t be like them. Start doing such things now.

Spending time in nature is the healthiest thing. And as they say it, nature is cheaper than therapy. Don’t waste your money on some shrink, instead go out in nature, someplace nice, quiet or with your loved ones, whatever you like.

Then there’s Music. Music has the power to make you forget everything. When you are listening to music, listen intently, feel it within you, embrace it, dance to it, cry it if it’s sad. Crying is also healthy. You get it out of your system.

Reading is important. You learn a lot of things from books, read history or biopics to learn how people lived, what they changed, how they made a difference.
People don’t realize the benefits of writing daily or weekly, keeping a journal. Write anything that comes to your mind, write about the things happening around the world, people around you. You feel light-headed, healthy.

Watching a movie or some episodes of a series daily, can make your day anytime. Make it a habit to watch an episode of your favourite selection before you get on with your day to day work. It will improve your mood. Watch realistic works. iSo that you can relate it to your life. Learn from it.

Having a sense of humour can help even in the worst cases. Don’t get offended easily. Make jokes, quietly in your mind to avoid beating if it becomes too much. Laugh at yourself.

One more thing which works for me, is don’t give a damn in general about things. Say, ‘My Bad’ and move on. Don’t care about what people think. Don’t whine about your stupid little problems. You could only make it worse by whining about it. I hate those people who have every reason to be happy but they are not because they want more, they compare themselves with others, and aspire for materialistic things. Never compare yourself with anyone. Don’t get jealous. Don’t get mad if you lose something.

Some more things would be as simple as, walking down the street, while listening to music, doing some photography, daydreaming, helping someone, meeting new people etc etc.

At last, be passionate about something, anything. Spend more time doing it and go after your dreams. Dream more and love more things, as many as you can. Learn something new each day. Have a Happy Life.

While doing all this. Talk! Talk about the happiest time of your life when you were busy doing it, making memories 🙂

Day 12

When was the last time you did something for yourself?

After reading this question are you still thinking or you were able to answer yourself immediately? Well both the scenarios are important. If you already have an answer, good going. Keep it up! But what if you are still struggling? It’s an indication that you should take up seriously.

Anything that you did for yourself which you can mention here and which gave you happiness counts. Then be a haircut for yourself or just go to a spa. Or going for a movie or night out with friends. In this pandemic situation meeting someone you love, adore or have missed them for a long time…counts. Note it down.

Even doing something good for others, if it made you happy then its equivalent of doing something good for yourself.

So, be true to yourself and write it down for yourself. It can be more than one thing also. Surprise yourself by the answers you give to yourself 🙂

Day 13

What made a positive effect on your life and why?

I am sure there may be many incidents for you to narrate here. But there must be a special one that’s engraved on your heart forever for sure. It’s like a lifetime lesson. Take a deep dive in your memories and get that one or at least one pearl out from your ocean.

I will share mine here with you all. As I am a huge fan of reading, I keep myself occupied throughout the day for maximum hours dwelled in reading. Everything and every time I read, I learn something new. At times reading the same stuff, it still leaves me with some new learning and feed for my thoughts. With life’s learning along with the combination of reading the positive impact that I have in my life are:

You are the only help to yourself. (Not even your parents or beloved ones)

Your pain is your endurance. People can only hear you and be sympathetic but the “pain” is all yours and you have to deal with it.

The more you value others, the more you are neglected. The more you value yourself, the more you grow.

Every person and situation of your life is temporary. Only you are permanent. And so, stop lamenting the wrongdoings. Start celebrating even the smallest achievement.

I would write down a few ideas which influenced my life to a great extent: So that you can write yours’s without struggling much about what has a positive effect on your life and why?

1.’The harder you sweat in peace, the lesser you bleed in war’ .

2.Anyway you have to do it. Better do it NOW.

These are the quotes I tell to myself whenever I procrastinate.

3.Remember the one who gave up?
Well, we don’t remember quitters.

I tell this to myself whenever I feel like ‘Okay. I’m done. I can’t do it anymore’.

4.Patience has its reward.

My Favourite:
The Chinese bamboo and learned that the tree takes 5 years, 3 months to grow to its whole height of 80 feet. Yet, for the first 5 years, you only see a tiny green shoot, but in the next 90 days, it grows into a full-fledged tree. But in those first 60 months, it is growing its strong network of roots underground, to support the tree. In an era of instant gratification, we settle for shorter trees, but remember patience has its reward. These are your years of growing that strong network of roots but be sure when you finally achieve your success, people will call it “overnight success”.

All the best 🙂 See you at Day 14

Day 14

How do you feel when you consider therapy or treatment for mental illness?

Let’s start this topic today with your reaction! How did you feel when you read this question? What was your first reaction? Do you take up this question and topic as healthy? Or do you feel uncomfortable discussing or even taking it up?

Normally people are not comfortable talking about their discomfort. People think depression is not a topic to be discussed publicly! But here I want to ask Why not? If you are feeling left out, uncomfortable, stressed or have depressing thoughts and suffering alone, why not talk it out? Many times people wear a plastic smile and hide away their true feelings, letting that depression make a way deep inside them and at times taking their lives away!

So here, this is a straight question you need to answer yourself and no one else. Write it down in your Journal. What and how do you feel? If you are suffering or knows anyone who is suffering from it! Be brave to accept and ready to help. Mental health is not about the old saying ‘He/She is mad’! Take them to a mental hospital, NO! Please don’t shy away. Come forward and take help if required. Don’t suffer in ‘SILENCE’.

“Nothing in all the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.

Stigma

A person with mental illness grows up and lives in a world of people mostly uneducated about mental illness, with a long-standing history of explaining mental illness as an example of spiritual or character weakness.

The stigma surrounding mental illness deserves to die, as the overwhelming majority of those with mental health diagnoses live productive lives, have good friendships and relationships, and do not pose a threat in any way to the well being of others. They are much more likely to cause harm to themselves if their illness is not successfully treated. They carry the pain, shame, and suffering inside themselves, as mental illness is most often an ‘invisible illness,” unknown and undetectable by those around them.

Even though only a small minority of the mentally ill are violent, most people perceive people with a mental illness to be more unstable or more likely to become violent.

The lack of understanding of what mental illness is leads to: 

Discrimination

People avoid what they feel as they have a right to be afraid of and most people will also avoid what they do not understand. Frightening over-the-top images of “violent crazy people” on television or in movies do not help educate about mental illness. That a very small minority of those with mental illness commit crimes doesn’t matter, when perception of the mentally ill as violent or unlawful comes from the media sensationalizing those very few cases.

We lack an understanding and awareness of what mental illness is, we are reluctant or ashamed to admit it, and mental illness is highly stigmatized. People make negative comments and don’t realize how those comments can really affect how we feel. And how we go about our lives. And it can actually leave little scars on us inside. Nobody reaches out to emotionally distressed for help. Instead, they are shunned , ridiculed, or feared.

Sometimes, families do not consider mental illness to be a problem, we have to make them understand that mental illnesses are real medical conditions and that there are effective treatments and these must be made available to people.

Mental illness should not be stigmatized. Instead, we need to start talking about it more. We need to start giving out the truth. And not perpetuating the lies. When we see somebody who’s emotionally distressed or acting strangely, or too often intoxicated for them we need to be involved, show our concern. This may help somebody to alleviate them from unnecessary suffering. Let’s help each other. Let’s work together, As we break through the stigma. And work towards a healthy mind and a healthy body.

Day 15

Think about the last time you were anxious that turned out to be nothing to worry about. How did you feel?

So, I will start here by sharing my story. I was in my high school. I was fourteen that time. My best buddy came to school and seemed lost. Till mid of the day I was struggling with her to find out what’s wrong with her! But the day was longer and luck was playing hard on me. Later she agreed to talk to me telling me I will share something with you but it’s a secret. Keep it with you. I hurriedly said ‘Promise’ go ahead and tell me quickly now. She said I have been observing some lumps in my breast and armpit. Her eyes were all filled with tears. She said at times it pains also especially when touched. I freaked out. We had just entered our teens and had witnessed few live cases of ‘Breast Cancer’. Just a week before there was a campaign about the awareness of the same in our school. And we were asked to diagnose ourselves on a regular basis. It was the time I felt extremely anxious. I was scared and was sweating. I felt breathless and at the same time suffocated. My mind started racing. Don’t know what all thoughts came to my mind about my closest friend’s suffering and me losing her. Ah! It was indeed the most scary day of my life.

She was anxious too and didn’t want to share this with anyone. Not even her parents. I calmed myself down and had a pep talk with her. Finally in a day’s time I convinced her to share this with her parents and take the reference of the free check up from the campaign that happened and stay positive. I promised her to be by her side all the time. Next day we went for her through check-ups. The time from the check-up till the results came left me all exhausted and drained out. By the grace of God everything was normal and her reports were negative. It was just the growing biological symptoms of the body. Till today we remember that day and all that we had gone through with our emotions but yes learned our hard lesson ‘Better to be safe, then Sorry.

Do this exercise. Write down and check it for yourself. Now go one step further. Start Analysing the causes and patterns of your worries. I will help you with a few quick tips to stop worrying for unnecessary things in life.

#1 Find the Cause.

Most things don’t actually have a leg to stand on, meaning they have no true basis to exist. If you find the cause of the worry, you can often eliminate it right there.

#2 Take the Emotion out of it.

Subjectively, the world may end when you lose your job or get out of a relationship. Objectively, however, it is not a permanent thing to anything. Don’t let your emotions cloud your reason.

#3 Record the Worry and Deal with it straight away.

“Dealing with it” is not about actually solving the worry, but more about finding a time and place at which you will handle it.

Write down a time and day on which you will be able to deal with it with whatever worry that plagues you right now; sit down even if you just have to sit down for a while to think about it.

Taking action in scheduling it makes the worry feel taken care of and at least gets it out of your head for present.

#4 Look at the Bigger Picture.

What matters to you in the end? What are you worrying over at this point? Are you worried about losing your love, or job for example? Would this matter in the end if you still found love or a better job? There is a reason things don’t seem so big in hindsight! Try to take that feeling of looking back at something and use it for today!

#5 Worry about Better Things.

It is physically impossible for your mind to think about multiple things at the exact same time; even during Multitasking your mind switches between thoughts rapidly but never deals with things simultaneously.

That being said, if you focus your thoughts on better things you will surely drown out the worry. This will get your mind into a better, overall, situation.

#6 What if the worry holds true?

Let your mind wander and then ask yourself what were to happen if the worry were to hold true. Would your life end then? Could you never be happy again? Would it all be over? Or do you think you have the power to move out of whatever horrible mess you can imagine? You have made it out of every bad thing thus far… What is to say you can’t this time should it happen?

#7 Let Go.

This will be drastically easier once you actually have applied some of the above mentioned tips. You can shortcut getting rid of the worry simply by believing that any one of the above holds true and letting the worry go based on the assumption that it holds no value. This is based mostly on trust in yourself, and therefore not something you can apply if you have worried over many things recently. But, the more you handle your worries, the easier it will be to let go of them before they truly take hold on YOU!

“ Be Grateful For What You Have. Be Fearless For What You Want.”

Day 16

What was your biggest failure? And what did you learn from your biggest failure in your life?

I am sure we all have different stories and different expectations from life. So each lesson learned is different from each other. Please think and write down what you think is your biggest failure in life and what lessons have you learned from it. The failure could be anything through out in your life, from your childhood, till right now!

My great concern is not whether you have failed, but whether you are content with your failure.” – Abraham Lincoln

Try and see if you recognize any of these names: Abraham Lincoln, Thomas Edison, Winston Churchill, Steven Spielberg, and Albert Einstein; how about Henry Ford? Nobody would argue that these are some of the best, brightest minds to have ever existed and that they’ve all made tremendous contributions to society. Nobody would ever attach the word failure to any one of them. But that’s exactly what they were at one time.

Failure is a matter of perspective, plain and simple. Let’s just take Abraham Lincoln, for example. The 16thPresident of the United States may just go down in history as the best leader the United States, perhaps the entire world, has ever had. What the history books will often omit however, is the number of failures that Lincoln experienced, among them: losing his jobs, failing in business, losing multiple runs for office (eight in total), and numerous rejections by colleagues and constituents; this all before being elected president in 1860. The rest is history.

Lincoln’s story alone is enough to demonstrate how failure can be a driving force towards success. The fact is that many of life’s important lessons are learned through failures and setbacks.

HERE ARE 10 LESSONS WE CAN ALL LEARN FROM FAILURE:

1. FAILURE BUILDS CHARACTER

There is a lesson to be learned from everything, including failure. Perhaps the greatest benefit earned from failure is strength. Think about it: if life were perfect and every endeavour ended in seamless success, what sort of person would you be? The truth is this – failure teaches us more about ourselves and builds character better than success ever could.

2. FAILURE CREATES OPPORTUNITY

Think about this: how many times in your life have you failed at something only to discover another opportunity? Maybe it was a failed relationship that led you to someone great. Maybe it was a job that didn’t suit you and brought you a better one. Regardless of what your “failure” was, the sweetness afterwards was much better as a result, wasn’t it?

3. FAILURE IS A GREAT TEACHER

Failure has a way of showing what your strengths and weaknesses are while motivating you to correct them. In any area of life – academics, work, play, relationships, etc. – failure is often the driving force behind success. For example, Michael Jordan, arguably the greatest basketball player in history, failed to make his high school basketball team. When asked about his early failures, Jordan said:

“I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed.”

4. FAILURE INSTILLS COURAGE

As should be clear by now, most people are scared of failure. Many of us are unwilling to take the uncertain path; we’d just prefer to stay in the same boat and not rock it too much. After all, we have responsibilities and people that depend on us. In short, failure requires courage. Whether the failure experienced was anticipated or not, you’ll need to toughen up a bit to get through it.

5. FAILURE TEACHES PERSEVERANCE

When experiencing failure, it’s very easy to just roll over and give up. “What’s the use?” you say to yourself. It takes guts and determination to keep driving forward. Take J.K Rowling, author of the enormously successful Harry Potter series. Rowling said that she received “loads” of rejection letters over a five year span before finding a publisher for one of the most successful book (and movie) series ever. Wow.

6. FAILURE SPAWNS CREATIVITY

If necessity is the mother of invention, failure is the father. Nothing spurs creativity like failure. Artists and creators of all stripes know that if something doesn’t work out, they must tap into their large reservoir of creative talent to create something truly unique.

8. FAILURE IS ACCEPTABLE

While a simple concept, accepting failure can be difficult to truly embrace. In the midst of experiencing failure, it is never a good feeling. In fact, this feeling can be downright gut-wrenching. But just remember that failure is acceptable…lack of effort is not. Here’s Michael Jordan again: “I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.”

9. FAILURE ENCOURAGES EXPLORATION

Steve Jobs knew that the corporate world was not for him. In fact, many things were not. He disliked college, societal norms, and the stiffness of businesspeople. Before founding Apple with Steve Wozniak, Jobs could have been labelled as a failure…he just didn’t care. Jobs said: “Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.” So explore and don’t let anything, especially failure, stop you.

10. FAILURE TEACHES RESILIENCE

Along with making us better people, failure both teaches and strengthens resilience. Through the discomfort and uncertainty of failure, one will be better able to take on any of life’s challenges as they come. Resilience is something required of all successful people, and there is no better teacher of resilience than failure.

If you don’t pick yourself up by your own tail or bootstraps, then no one else will do it for you. Learn to advise and assist yourself.

Day 17

Talk about three things that make you seriously ‘HAPPY?

Pen it down. Think. It could be small or no matter how big. Materialistic or real. Important is to be happy. You feeling at peace. It could be your me time you give to yourself or family time. Meeting with friends or going out for dining. Taking vacations or short break as staycation. Travelling or watching movies sitting at your own home. It can be anything.

To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.

Oscar Wilde

You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life. Live in the moment.

My list of three things are the following.

1: Meditation/Walking

The first thing that I do in the morning is to do meditation and take a walk for almost 40 minutes whenever I get time in the day. I feel great after the doing meditation and going for a walk as I get the feeling that I have done something fruitful with my day for wellbeing of my mental health and taking care of my body.

2: Reading

Just like food is must for body, learning is must for mind. I must learn something new every day. Books are my constant companions. If I read at least one hour in a day a good book, I feel blessed. Nothing pleases me as much as reading a great work of a great mind.

3: Writing

Writing is like my mental work-out. I have to write to express my thoughts. It is an expression of a new knowledge in my own words. I write my journal on my blog daily nowadays.

Sometime, I am busy writing a book and feel great if I get some new idea of a chapter in the morning. Occasionally I even write two or three chapters in day. Also i devote my fix time for my content writing getting it published with renowned online magazine and newspapers.

It gives a high when I write something good that is appreciated and liked by my readers.

Day 18

How would you describe the state of mental health to a stranger?

Personally, I have been receiving various but similar answer to this question. While reading this, you are free to write exactly what you feel like. No force, no boundaries. I promise you won’t be judged. I have come across people whom if given a piece of advice stating that ‘Don’t worry everything will be fine. You will be fine. It happens. Learn to move on.’ Trust me you will be blocked forever. So, I feel at times it important just to be there. There to listen. Not to reply.

If I have to answer here personally for myself, I would say:

The one word that describe me and my mindset is KINDNESS.

It is much more than just an act.

Kindness can mean different things to different people. The meaning is how YOU choose to show it. Be it through empathyacceptancelovekind gesturesthoughtfulnessoptimism, the possibilities are entirely up to you. Kindness might look like being helpful or showing empathy. It may mean doing nice things without expecting nice things in return.

Kindness is beauty.

We are humans, and therefore, we make mistakes. We can be kind in our response to ourselves and others when those mistakes occur. This means thinking before speaking, forgiving before seeking revenge, being patientlovinghelping, affectionate with others and thinking about long-term relationships instead of short-term pride. If we could all remember that no one of us is perfect, we would be a lot kinder to each other. Offer grace, be kind.

I will end this here with just one line in the end,

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle.”

Day 19

If you had to explain how to look after your mental heath to an alien, what would you say?

Fiction speaks a thousand words:

Imagine just casually walking home in the daytime from somewhere. You aren’t too far from it, but you can see the house in the distance. You are completely unaware of your surroundings; no warnings; no signs of anything. You feel safe, content. Suddenly, the sky around you begins to turn a crimson red, and quickly— very quickly. The air becomes toxic and burns every time you breathe, and each footstep you take makes your legs and knees feel weaker. You begin to sprint home in hopes to push through this. You see your house get farther from your view as you run toward it. Your safe zone is no longer there; it’s getting farther away by the inch; foot; yard; meter; mile; kilometre. You are not going home. You are alone, and will suffer alone. As you lose your breath and begin to slow down, you realize the pain in your body and collapse completely. Struggling and unable to get up, you keep trying to reach for home. The wind gets thicker and harder to breathe, and the pain becomes more immense. It feels as if gravity became 20x stronger than it used to be. As you helplessly take a look around, the sky and ground have turned to a pitch black. Everything is now nothing, and here you are, being forced into this empty void, with no one there to help you. As your vision begins to fade and you lose your final breaths of air, you feel the emptiness, hopelessness, and helplessness reside and grow within you. Everything slowly centres and fades to black.

Now your turn 🙂

Using an Analogy, I will try to explain what one can feel:

I’m a bird.
I wear my achievements as vivid, kaleidoscopic colours on my wings. Every day, people wake to find me soaring joyfully through the air.

The adults gaze at me as I fly past them. They hear my carefree, light-hearted squawks and see my magnificent accomplishments and shower me with reverence.
“Kids,” they say. "That bird is so impressive. Look how he’s grown into a responsible, strong animal. Work hard, and someday you’ll be like him.”

On the most overcast days my markings become brighter against the murky grey sky; my laugh becomes more energetic amidst the ambience of gloom. They admire me. Idolize me.

Every night I bid farewell to the people and retreat to my nest, a crude, fracturing home built from splintered twigs. I rip the festive colourings on my wings off and toss them to the ground. They reveal deep, hideous gashes, piercing red on my black plume. As I sing myself to sleep, my voice comes out gravelly, strained, as if thrown into an icy river and neglected.

When I wake in the mornings I clip the colourings back on. I drink gallons of water to massage my aching throat. I wipe the tears off my feathers before soaring out to greet the people once more.

Thanks for reading. It helps a lot to know people can see what one is going through 🙂

Day 20

If money was no object, what would you do/buy to make yourself happy?

A day of complete Freedom, where nothing applies, no rules, no laws, no obligations, no compulsions, just Me how I was intended and the rest of the world. There’s no work, no kept time, no bad thoughts, we are enslaved by our need to be everybody’s version of you but who you are, forcing each personality disorders, bullying other, hurting, stealing just being the worst version of ourselves. People are not smiling and being serine. It gets so emotional in distraught to constantly watch people wear masks all day being guilted into pushing your” inner nice self” to the fullest. Society deems a forever bias “everyman for themselves” repertoire.

Day 21

Talk about one of your biggest fears. Be honest.

Let’s talk. Pen it down. Share it with me. I will share mine here 🙂

My deepest fear was letting go of people who no longer served my purpose and who were nothing more than a habit. I deeply feared of letting go of all that toxicity, negativity because I was so accustomed to them that without all of it, I knew I would be empty. One very fine day, I learnt that I do not deserve to face this shit and bring myself pain. I decided to cut that diseased part from myself, bleed and finally wait patiently to heal.

My deepest fear was about acting upon my gut feeling because I really feared that it would turn out to be wrong. If only I had known that these feelings are messages from the soul, my story could have been all together very different. I finally faced this fear of mine by falling and then pulling myself together again to stand upright.

My deepest fear was of letting things happen as they happen. I always wanted to control everything and took those so-called necessary steps to make things happen my way. When I finally learnt that what has to happen will happen and my any effort will not change the course of it’s happening, everything changed for good in my life. I faced this fear by experiencing deep pain, but that surprisingly made me strong.

I still have many fears and they are still patiently waiting to be faced.

Day 22

What’s the biggest lesson you have learned about having good mental health?

5 lessons learnt during 2020:

  1. Utilizing our time is completely in our hands. If we are restricted from going out, we can either while away our time sleeping and watching Netflix, or we can make some good use of our time. I used my lockdown time to enhance my writing skills by taking up various courses and getting my articles published.
  2. We can adapt very quickly to a new way of life. When the pandemic started, we were all very scared of the uncertain future. Now, life has started going back to a new normal. We have all adapted ourselves to this new normal.
  3. Technology and digital revolution are critical for long term sustenance. The world has seen more technological revolution during this pandemic than ever before, and the companies that have really survived well are those that were digitally enabled. I have noticed people who had never used computers are now holding multiple Zoom meetings one after the other. Technology and Digital world is the future.
  4. Health is important – physical and mental. This year has taken a toll on our mental and physical health. We have been tested to the extreme, but we have survived this situation because we remained strong. It is critical to take care of our mental and physical well being.
  5. You can’t always plan everything in life, but you can definitely change your plans according to the situation. I had a set of plans for this year, which involved travelling to multiple countries. Well, all those plans went down the drain, but I decided to make new goals on the spot that did not require me to travel.

2020 taught us that we are stronger than we can imagine. Give us some time, and we can adapt ourselves to any way of life, with a smile on our faces.

Day 23

What triggers your anxiety/depression? How can you manage that?

My own approach is that anxiety and depression are both normal human emotions that only get trotted out if we need them. I don’t buy into the idea that they are illnesses, though in strength they can certainly make us sick, and some people do get stuck in them.

Anxiety is fear for our well-being. If we have unresolved fears of harm from our past, we may be able to suppress them for years, but eventually they leak out as anxiety.

Depression is a warning that we cannot handle any more emotional pain. Unresolved emotional pain from out past, plus any incoming emotional pain from our present, is hurting us. Depression is so unpleasant because it is pushing us to resolve that pain, even though doing so can be anguishing. Once it is resolved, we feel better.

These are quick, thumb-nail descriptions, but they are more than most people have, so a lot of people are very confused about depression and anxiety. They think they are horrible sicknesses that you get if you are unlucky, when actually they are just very strong nudges from your mind to deal with unresolved emotional pain.

The emotional pain often comes from our childhood, because childhood brains aren’t mature enough to resolve it. But it can come from any time.

A good therapist is often the best way to work through it.

Day 24

Think about someone who has negatively impacted your mental health. Write them a letter.

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It was just like any other day. Nothing special or planned! Day was going ‘ON’ at its normal pace. However, all of sudden my husband offered to take us out on a long drive. Me and my little angel readily agreed! It hardly took us 30 mins to get ready and we were on wheels! Cold breeze and lovely gathering of clouds in the sky were complimenting us for the drive. We almost drove for 100 kms with a single stopover for ice-cream and coffee for ourselves. Just then while sitting on the bench on the lake side watching the huge mountains, I saw my daughter innocently licking her ice-cream.

She was looking so adorable that I couldn’t take my eyes off her! 

Realizing that getting busy with our daily chores how at times we become ungrateful for forgetting that happiness lies in the small things in our day to day life! How often do we take time out to be grateful and live just in the moment appreciating all that we have rather than complaining about all that we want, desire or hunt for…?

Few moments of silence and not knowing what happened to me, I started to tease her and play around with her. I was cuddling her, making her laugh her heart out. She hugged me and started jumping out of excitement. The innocence in her smile, crispiness in her voice was making the day more beautiful. Making me feel blessed and grateful for all that I have in life.

As soon as she was done with her ice-cream, I took her to a nearby pleasantry shop and asked her to get something for her.

She started to pick up all sorts of colourful toys, filling them up in her little hands and tiny pockets! I couldn’t stop laughing. Just then she found an ‘ELSA TUSUM DOLL’ and threw the rest of everything away! I took that doll in hand, made it a puppet and started teasing her, calling her name in a blabbering tune…. “We got one more pet name for her! Our secret.”  Our conservations started with that doll making her a puppet, taking her to a fairyland that got converted into a story…

Not realizing that almost 20 mins had passed, we were busy playing like this. People have stopped and gathered around enjoying our ‘Doll Puppet Show’. That was the most unforgettable minutes wherein we had forgotten everything else, especially me! I was just in that moment with her! I came back to present with the sound of applause around me. Feeling embarrassed at the same time, glad, I got up, smiling to everyone, took her in my arms and went to the counter. Happily, purchased the ELSA DOLL and left.

It has been a couple of years now, my little angel from single digit has grown to double digit with her age, still our puppet shows in the morning and odd times in the day to play around with the tiny little doll is ‘ON’ making us both forget our actual AGE. 

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October – Diary


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Day 1

Since Long time I have wanted to start my day with writing my mind here, Pouring down my feelings, emotions, sentiments, experience and all whatever I have gone through. Finally thought why not start from today itself. As its 1st October today!

What’s so special for today? Well everything. We humans have a tendency to be ungrateful, complaining more and being less thankful. I have learned my hard lessons from life and the 1st and foremost is of being ‘Thankful’. I am starting my beautiful day today with a smile, thanking for everything – EVERYTHING in my life. I have witness we can stay happy if we complain less and look our life with all the happenings in it with a different attitude.

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Here, today I am elated as my daughter’s exams got over yesterday. Ah, what a relief truly. Though still she is in her primary grades but the stress of her exams for more than two weeks I felt was on me. I felt as if I was appearing for my board exams. I studied each and every subject with her in detail to make her understand and prepare for exams. No doubt I revised my old portion and learned a lot of new things. So, Yes I am grateful.

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She took me to my previous days of learning. I was forced to recall my combined studies that I had been doing with my friends and classmates. What fun it used to be. More gossip and less studies (I guess that’s what combined studies are! Isn’t it?). Midnight tea breaks and instant Maggie Noodles were the centre of attraction rather than the focus for the result and marks. We have one or two black sheep in the herd, who were studious and were behind the ranks but the rest all of us were badass cracked heads 🙂

With all the fuss and drama that we went through jointly for the past two weeks were thrilling. So finally yeah, here I am celebrating the HALF YEARLY EXAMS completed and looking forward to the ANNUAL EXAMS now.

Day 2

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Just two days for exams to get over and marks have started to pour in. MCQ marks! First I learned the abbreviation of MCQ – Multiple Choice Questions! I am not so into the marks that are scored for this year exams but still I am! Mind understands that we are going through hard times. This Pandemic situation has made everyone adopt the change with new lifestyles. I am debating these days with myself for marks scored and grades received! Is it truly important? Especially in today’s situation! When all our children are taking online classes. It’s the virtual school they are attending. More than eight months have passed and they have not met their friends, or talked with them personally or hugged them. No more going out of home, or doing any physical activities. Everyone is just trapped in their own secured homes for the sake of safety! So what children are actually memorising by course learning and understanding, are these things gonna work for them in future or in practical life? I agree knowledge is important but how we use it and implement it in our practical life is altogether a different chapter.

Day 3

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Well, Writing my journal here is On & OFF. So Day 3 here precisely can be the other day also :-). Anyways, in no time it was the weekend. From March 2020, since this Pandemic started everyday is a working day, at the same time all days are like weekends. Full family has ‘Work from home’ schedules. School from home. Initially it was great but now it feels like loads of never ending work. Household chores, other works, professional work, personal work, everything has come under one roof. Pretty sure making everyone go crazy now. Most of us must have gotten acquainted with this new lifestyle, but am sure there are still many who are struggling to get adjusted and adopt this. It’s not easy I know. But with no choice left we have to learn to cope up with this routine.

Anyways, so yeah as I said it was a weekend and I decided to treat myself with movie night after a long long time . . . The other day I was reading reviews about the movie ‘Five Feet Apart’ released in 2019. Release Date: 15 March 2019 (USA)
Genre: Drama, Romance
Director: Justin Baldoni
Written by: Mikki Daughtry and Tobia Iaconis
Cast: Haley Lu Richardson, Cole Sprouse, Moises Arias

The movie is influenced by the Novel ‘Five Feet Apart’ by Rachael Lippincott released on 20th November 2018.

“Humans touch our first form of communication. Safety, Security all in a gentle clasp of fingers or a brush of lips on your soft cheek connects us when we’re happy, bolsters us in times of fear, excites us in times of passion and love. We need that touch from someone we love as much as we need our breath but I never understood the importance of touch. His touch. Until I couldn’t have it. So if you’re watching this, and you’re able, touch him. Touch her. Life’s too short to waste a second.”

Yes, so, the entire movie is centrally focused on the importance of human touch and the fact that Stella realized the importance of it when she couldn’t touch the person, she loved more than herself, Will. 

She realized the importance of touch when she longed to hug her best friend, but she couldn’t ever again. “Could you ever love someone, you can never touch,” This question, questions our sanity and our beliefs of love. The answer lies in ourselves, would ever fall for someone, whose lips wouldn’t ever fall on you? Would you stay away from them, just to keep them alive? Would their survival ever mean to you more than yours?

Stella and Will, the protagonists of the drama unknowingly meet in a hospital and they are obliged to keep apart six feet at all times. However, Stella steals an inch from Cystic Fibrosis, and the disease was indeed indebted to her, by robbing all her joys of her adolescence and the distance is reduced to 5 feet. So, that’s why it’s titled Five Feet Apart.  Apart from the premier protagonists, you’d love the tale that’s intricately crafted with a huge amount of amour and even all the other characters like Barb, Poe, Julie, and Abby, my personal favourite.

Few of my ‘Favourite Dialogues’ from the movie

“If I’m going to die, I’d like to actually live first.”

“How long will I live my life afraid of what-ifs?”

“I’m tired of living without really living.”

“…I want to be fearless and free. It’s just life, Will. It’ll be over before we know it.”

…Don’t think about what you’ve lost. Think of how much you have to gain. Live, Stella.”

If this year has taught me anything, it’s that grief can destroy a person.”

“I think a well-drawn cartoon can say more than words ever could, you know? It could change minds.”

If you read this till the end, take a deep breath, feel it, feel the life oozing inside you. Be grateful for the breath, be grateful for your life, express your gratitude for everything as not everyone receives the joy you’re treading by.

Day 4

Preparation for upcoming B’day!

A Bundle of Joy

It’s my birthday month. I can see the excitement for my upcoming birthday all around me. All my loved one are trying to hide it from me though I can easily feel it. Preparation and planning to surprise me have started much before then I thought. My daughter being the most EXCITED to celebrate it made up a gang with a couple of my close friends and families. All the secret phone calls and their murmuring kept me hooked up and suspicious. The more they tried to hide it, the more I would peep in to destroy their planning. Whole week turned out to be like the ‘Hide & Seek’ game in our house. Can’t wait for the final surprise on my Birthday. I can be a spoiler but I don’t want to be! So, yeah here I am supporting them all but keeping quite and acting as I don’t know anything. . .

But the secret of my life at my home front is ‘I am the Planner’. Planning and implementation can’t be done without me! So YES, I am there but NOT there. . . He He He. . .

Day 5

Birthday Celebrations

There are Angels on this earth, who made my Birthday a Blessed Day!

The day started with a fantastic surprise by my beloved daughter and her father. I could hear their whispers in my sleep in the early morning and knew they were planning out something for the morning and just waiting for me to wake up. Here, as I knew something is cooking up I took my own sweet time to wake up! My daughter was sleeping with me in the early morning but when I opened my eyes to get up I couldn’t find her beside me. I had to scream at both of them to signal that I have woken up. Initially I thought to creep in the Living Room and surprise them with whatever they were doing, but then as I said I didn’t want to be a spoiler so I had to call them to our to bedroom.

To my ‘Surprise’ they came up with a cup cake. Candle on top of it and two beautiful fresh ‘RED ROSE’. I was teasing my daughter by not blowing away the candle, she got hyper and stated MAMMA do it! After a few mins of teasing and having fun, I like a good baby did what I was asked to do and they hugged me singing the ‘Birthday Song’. On my Birthday I was not allowed to make breakfast. So I waited for the next surprise. My favourite Breakfast presented in the most elegant way. I truly cherished each and every moment of the morning.

My little angel got the ‘Birthday Card’ she has made at night and showed it to her father announcing proudly that I am the 1st one to wish mamma at midnight 12:00 O’clock. He looked at me and I couldn’t stop myself but to blush.

Then I was honoured with few of my favourite songs played in the background for almost half of the day. After lunch my little princess left to give a surprise to me in the evening stating have the gala movie time with DAD (daughters really grow up fast). She has planned everything with selection of the movie, the ambience, décor, and few snacks. I was thoroughly enjoying the pampering. In between yes calls and messages for the ‘Birthday Wishes’ that I kept reverting.

Now after the movie as soon as I planned to take a nap, the doorbell rang. I had my little munchkins on the door. Had a bigger surprise when few more friends arrived with freshly baked homemade cake. This was the surprise! The real fun started. My daughter along with our family and friends had planned this ‘BIG BOX’ surprise. Wherein my gift was wrapped in two layers of boxes with lots of confetti’s and handwritten wishes. My task was to guess who has written which wish and then only I can proceed.

Guess What? I guessed all the wishes written by whom WRONG! Now this was the most exciting part. I kept guessing wrong. None of my answers were correct. The room was filled with laughter and at the same time it was upsetting few and infuriating other rest of them. But I was enjoying it thoroughly. Finally as they had no choice left, I got all my gifts as they were for me!

Day didn’t end here! As soon as everyone disbursed for the day and I was relaxing on the couch, just 15 mins to go for the clock to strike twelve and change the date and day – the doorbell rang again. I was like who could be now at this point of time in the night? My little one opened the door and I had one more surprise. I had one of my best buddies at the door! she came up with her little munchkin and of course a DELICIOUS CAKE. Again an advance well planned surprise which my daughter knew. We cut the cake exactly at 12:00 and had it with a lot of fun and chit chats!

What A Day! I truly had the best time. Every year I think this is the best BIRTHDAY I had till now, but the later year proves me wrong with the previous year giving me ample memories to cherish with the best time spent with my loved ones.

Learn to Love, Self-Help

Remembering not to Forget to be Grateful. “Happy Teachers Day”


Remembering Not to Forget to be Grateful: Happy Teachers Day!

Full article can be read on the link given above.

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“Are we what we are today, because it was destined, or we grew with the help of our teachers?” Today when everyone is taking this opportunity to talk about teachers and show the gratitude through various means like making cards, doing online ‘thanks’ programs, writing articles, sending emails and doing telephonic talks to wish them, even I want to pay tribute to all my teachers in my life and be a part of this great celebration! By observing myself for what I am today, I want to thank not only to my academic teachers but also to them who have been a part of my journey into moulding me and helped me become what I am today.

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Teachers are those who when the students are guided through a process of self – transformation that is much larger than mere memorization of facts come in picture. Education is no doubt about creating an environment and support system in which a person change who they are! Teachers mediate and guide that transformation.

Moving further with the grades I cherish my memories with my English Teacher in higher secondary school, who at that time became the ‘ANCHOR’ for my life, saving my best friend from an emotional tornado. She became our philosopher and guide like a ray of light in the dark tunnel leading us towards the bright road. We will always be grateful to her. Such incidents in the school of life wherein the various teachers have played an important role teaching us variety of subjects of life like values, common sense, respect, empathy and other qualities, are engraved so strongly on my heart that it has transformed me completely. Thanks indeed would be a very small word, still I want to Thanks to All who have been my teacher, my guide and philosopher supporting me in all situations of life, especially when I needed a hand to hold me and save me from falling down. Thanks for Changing my World. ‘Happy Teachers Day’!

Be Happy, challenge, happiness, Perfection, Rejection

To be or Not to be Nice at Work?


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Office Environment

  • To be or not to be nice at work?
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A person’s personality defines whether the person at work is nice or not. Many times, it’s a person’s character, and at times it’s forced or influenced for a change over due to work environment and pressure.

But I feel one should stay balanced at work and take things smartly. Pressure will always remain whether it’s a workplace, to achieve targets for your success or in life! How to deal with them is important. Being nice and generous genuinely always pay back. But one should not be so nice, that people walk over you.

By stating the correct and solid boundaries you can save yourself from getting damaged mentally. With the experience we can mention today that being nice is not bad. If you have the proper knowledge and experience about when to say ‘Yes’ and ‘NO’, it is not bad being nice. If you’re a kind person, express it. It’s good to be sunshine as many might have a cloudy day but won’t express it. Just be careful with the people who approach you only when needed and then disrespect you. Being nice is an art. Don’t let someone steal it from you. Protect your ideas at your workplace as we are living in a competitive world. So, it’s obvious to have competition all around. If someone assume you are weak – prove them wrong. Create and maintain balance, to be genuinely kind but professional. Be open to accept compliments or critics with grace, share your opinions with respect; expressive with your ideas; learn to share constructive critics but communicate it well, and don’t be a nerd.

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Develop yourself in both ways – socially and professionally in nature at work environment. Let your company get benefit more through its relaxed and comfortable employees. When an employee is not expressive at work, somehow, they stop themselves from giving they’re through input. Don’t be too friendly with all your work mates, as then they can take you for granted.

Being nice at work environment could possibly be respecting other people’s religion, race and culture. Being diplomatic according to me is not ‘nice’. You cannot spy on your workers by being nice. One should not violate the privacy of an individual. Be ethical with your work, cheating in any way won’t take you to a long way giving success. You might achieve it for a period but ultimately the truth and facts would be out someday, and you would be ruined. This applies to both out professional as well as personal life.

Stay clear with your priorities i.e., to work for the company, and not to please your colleagues. Prepare a plan on how you can achieve it. ‘Focus on the bigger picture in life’.

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Stay strong: This difficult phase will help you, grow, once you have dealt with this situation successfully, you will feel stronger and more confident. Don’t let the office environment make you weak. Be a flexible listener. Be ready to give ears to other’s opinions, then give your piece of mind by staying rational. Avoid using mobile, maintain eye contact. Others should not feel ignored by you. Discourage gossip and gossipers. They just waste time for little entertainment. ‘AVOID’ is the remedy for them.

It’s up to us to stay nice at workplace by staying positive and maintain our dignity.

Be Happy, challenge, happiness, Learn to Love, Perfection, Self-Help

The Magic of “Magical Power”


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We all have superpower that we are not completely aware of. We don’t even know the ways by which we can find out what ‘superpower’ we have unless there are such circumstances that reveal the powers. 

If we talk about simple magical feel or power, we felt any time in our life, can be smallest or something big achieved. If we start our day positively and end on a thanking note, am sure we would find more then one magical moment in one single day. It could be the smile of our parents, children, grandparents, friends or even a STRANGER!

I am sure if given a chance or asked a question about ‘Magical Power’ that one can have we might get many amazing answers and ideas for it. As now our world is full of creative minds. Also, necessities play a vital role in this.

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If same question asked to me on personal level. My answer to it: If I had a magic power, it would be to READ & CONTROL people with my mind for betterment. I am an imaginative person and I do believe in the power of magic as for me its confidence, will power and determination to achieve something you decide, desire or aim for. Magic is simply the manipulation of energy in its various forms. I believe things can be invoke into being, by intentions and focus.

I am sure we all have some talent that must have saved us magically from difficult situations time and again. It might be communication skills or to think smartly for a solution on immediate basis. Magic can be tapped into when we learn how to see it, feel it, sense it and then interact with it.

Be Happy, challenge, happiness, Learn to Love, Self-Help

Awesome Blogger Award


http://www.betulerbasi.com

Hi All,

I am happy to be nominated for AWESOME BLOGGER AWARD by Betul Erbasi. You can go and check her website for advance idea about writing. Since you are blogging, I am sure you all are interested in it. So, give it a try and check it out.

Awesome Blogger Award

Rules:

  • Thank the person that nominated you
  • Tag the post with #awesomebloggeraward
  • Answer the questions you were asked
  • Nominate at least 5 bloggers and inform them of their nominations
  • Give them 10 new questions

Betul’s questions for ME:

  1. What do you like about yourself? Positive Attitude, my contagious smile and ready to help nature.
  2. What you don’t like about yourself? At times my immediate reactions that are mistaken by people as ‘Short-tempered’! Sometimes quick to judge and come to conclusion.
  3. What are the most important characteristics you look for in a good friend? Honesty, truthful, lively and easy going. I stay away from selfish and cunning people in my life.
  4. If you were too hungry and too sleepy, would you choose sleep or food first? Without a second thought, ‘Food First and then Sleep Peacefully’.
  5. How much time do you spend on social media in a day? If WordPress is social media, then maximum. Need an app now it seems for myself to monitor my active hours on social media and intimate me especially during this quarantine period.
  6. Do you have a favorite travel destination? If so, where is it? Destination that I had been dreaming by grace of GOD already visited them. So for now, for future it is ‘Greece’.
  7. How does your writing could help people? Connect with themselves and same time with the outer world.
  8. What is the most recent TV show you watched? Do you recommend it? I prefer any ‘reality show’ that is not biased and showcase talent of people. I don’t mind recommending them if its interesting basically dancing or singing shows.
  9. What is the most important human need (other than the basic one like eating, sleeping, etc.) and why do you think it is important? Feed for soul. Anything by which soul stays happy, at peace and satisfied. It could differ from person to person like writing, cooking, exercises, yoga, meditation or simply talking to friends and loved ones by staying connected.
  10.  Mornings, afternoons or evening? LATE NIGHTS – ha ha ha!

Nominees:

Whoever wants to claim it as usual 🙂

My questions for Nominees:

  1. What do you admire about yourself?
  2. When were you last happy the most and why?
  3. What is the one thing you regret the most in your life? Why?
  4. Your most favorite activity during your daily routine?
  5. One thing that you don’t like doing, but still good at it!
  6. If upset, what you prefer to do?
  7. What is your ever-lasting memory attached with a song or a movie? Share if u feel like – Why?
  8. Apart from yourself, who is that one person who you rely in life? Why?
  9. Your favorite mode of transport with a fantasy attached with it?
  10. What was the last thing you challenged yourself with?