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Memories OR Flashback attached with ‘Scent’

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Can You think of an memory attached with the ‘SCENT’ in life? It could be of anything, but surely close to the heart. Am Sure you must be having more then ONE!

Our brain stores memories through everything we touch, experience, taste, smell, see and many other such things. ”SMELL” certainly is an element, which helps stored memories to flash out.

I personally feel the SCENT – SMELL is the strongest memory trigger. Memories and emotions are a strong combination in itself.

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It can be a smell of perfume associated with ‘SOMEONE’ we are close with, or a strong SCENT of lilacs. It could be the scent of the OCEAN or the Mud of first rain after summer. It could be the smell of coffee or tea made by mother, the first thing in morning. Smell of your favourite food, perfumes, flowers, books and its pages, and so much more…

It can be connected to an event that has a strong emotional impact on us in the past. So when we smell that particular smell, it can trigger an emotional response. This can happen even years down the road.

It’s a fact that our sense of smell is automatically heavily connected to our memory system. Few such memories are engraved in me for lifetime. The scent that evokes memories for me is Eucalyptus. It has always remained closed to my heart. It’s my absolute most favourite scent, that is full of nostalgia, love and simpler times. My childhood memories are attached with it, with lot of functions, celebrations and gatherings.

Eucalyptus was used by my mother in the mixer of freshly homemade ‘Mehndi’ with few other ingredients. Till date no celebrations are completed without applying it on our hands. The aroma of mehndi stays for days on hands and months in hearts.

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Also the smell of gentle monsoon breeze takes me to afternoon sitting outside our house on a porch with my mother and friends.

Anytime if I happens to smell such familiar smell in life, I try to take it in me as much as I can as an storage for the upcoming days. It makes me feel alive and energetic.

Do share with me what is yours? Would love to read your share!

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Importance of Team and Team-Work.

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Teamwork is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.”
– Andrew Carnegie

I am taking the opportunity to write this blog, as it strike to me while playing a simple game of ‘LUDO’, how important it is form a team and do team-work. This game taught me a lot, that I would be sharing here, which could be applied to various aspects in our life.

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7 Mantra of Teamwork to follow in life.

Teamwork is the collaborative effort of a team to achieve a common goal or to complete a task in the most effective and efficient way.

Therefore, successful teamwork requires clearly defined roles and purpose along with the interaction between teammates.

Here are the 7 mantras to observe and take value from.

  • First,

WHAT ARE THE SIX MOST IMPORTANT WORDS? – I ADMIT I MADE A MISTAKE

  • Second,

THE FIVE MOST IMPORTANT WORDS – YOU DID A GOOD JOB.

  • Third,

THE FOUR MOST IMPORTANT WORDS – WHAT IS YOUR OPINION.

  • Fourth,

THE THREE MOST IMPORTANT WORDS – IF YOU PLEASE.

  • Fifth,

THE TWO MOST IMPORTANT WORDS – THANK YOU.

  • Sixth

THE ONE MOST IMPORTANT WORD – WE

  • Seventh,

THE LEAST IMPORTANT WORD – I

These to be remembered throughout our life. These will help us to become a better person and moreover a better leader.

You may be a great asset yourself, but It does not matter if you cannot lead your team. What’s the point if you cannot utilize your team, their skills and resources.

It will look natural “if it is natural”. Start imbibing these qualities in your life, accept your mistakes, appreciate other’s work, consider feedback’s, give respect where it is due, be humble and believe in TEAMWORK.

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In order to have an effective team that can bring you the best in all, you need to involve all your team members in planning and share the workload. Each team member needs to actively participate and contributes towards the successful completion of the assignments. This is the only way to achieve an A+ result. To meet this, you need members who think like a team player. But you cannot simply force them to do so. The only way to achieve this is to inspire them with some successful methodologies. You need to have an understanding about each and every team member and have a clear cut idea about what will bring the best out of them.

In order to have an effective team, we need to have open conversations. This will help to maintain a low level of conflict and will also increase the cooperation of your team members. Few mistakes and few complaints will also make a team effective one. A group of members that will take the responsibility together is an asset for any team.

An effective team will have a clear role and clear-cut goal for their team members. Well defined plan and effective relationship are other qualities of an effective team. Constructive, clear and frank criticism is another quality of an effective team.

Create a team with members that are focused and responsible about their goal in order to walk through the road of grand success. Remember these great words from John Lennon ‘A dream that you dream alone is only a dream. A dream you dream together is reality’.

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Teamwork in Business

Nowadays! Everyone wants to succeed in their businesses, want to deliver their best quality products, and excellent services, for delighting their clients. For that, a company’s teams are their backbone for it. Businesses need strong teams that work smartly, with excellence. Without the talented team, you’re just the walking dead without motor skills to go where you want to go.

“A founder’s individual characteristics are important but what’s more important are that person’s ability to bring a bigger and more experienced team with them,” the researchers say. “And the bigger that team the more likely the firm will succeed.”

What is a Team?

A team is any group of people who work together to achieve something to gain a shared outcome. It may be a sales team, or a call centre team, or a rugby team, or the executive team of a multinational corporation. The same simple rules for success apply to all of them.

It starts with the team leader. Every team needs a leader, a captain, a chief, and the success of that team is almost entirely dependent on what the team leader does – and doesn’t do. Great team ensures great teamwork, achieved by consistent application of some age-old basics:

  • Clear Accountabilities
  • Simple Measures
  • Robust Disciplines
  • Coaching for performance and growth
  • Skills
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Teamwork is defined as “A joint action by a group of people, in which each person subordinates his or her individual interests and opinions to the unit and efficiency of the group.”

The does not mean that the individual is no longer important; however, it does mean that effective and efficient teamwork goes beyond individual accomplishments.

The most effective teamwork is produced when all the individuals involved harmonize their contributions and work towards a common goal.

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List of Books to be ‘Read’ once in lifetime!

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  1. Megaliving – Robin Sharma : The ultimate guide for improving the quality of life , self development , success , goals , happiness
  2. The power of positive thinking – Dr. Norman Vincent Peale : It has solution to face each and every situation of your life .
  3. The Last Lecture – Randy Pausch : The most inspiring and a good read book . Also guides on how to face adversities with a big smile .
  4. Books by Rashmi Bansal such as connect the dots : Ultimate guide to how hard work and compassion can make rags to riches .
  5. The Art of Happiness – Dalai Lama : As the name itself suggests .
  6. The story of my experiments with truth – Mahatma Gandhi
  7. The diary of a young girl : Anne Frank
  8. How to win friends and influence people : Dale Carnegie : the ultimate guide of human interpersonal relations ever
  9. The autobiography of Benjamin Franklin : Benjamin Franklin
  10. I know why the caged bird sings : Maya Angelou .

These are few non-fiction life changes books recommended for a good read!

List of fiction and few others will be posted soon. Till then enjoy this!

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Blessed and Grateful

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 “Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” —  Oprah Winfrey

Being grateful and spreading gratitude can do so much for yourself and for others. We have every day to be grateful for, but we tend to forget to take the time to acknowledge what we have, who we have, and everything around us.

What does be “grateful” really mean? We keep hearing about it, but how come we still don’t practice it? Gratefulness is being appreciative of what you have — whether they’re positive or negative experiences.

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I have found that the best way to be grateful is to begin by noticing the small things and to acknowledge within yourself how thankful you are for something. For instance, when you get your morning cup of coffee or tea, smell the aroma and the nice feel of the cup in your hands.  Give a thought of thanks.

When you go outside and see the clouds think a thought of thanks for the new day and what it will bring.  Notice the pattern of the clouds and the play of light and shadow on your surroundings.  Feel a thought of thanks for that. Feel all the blessing in life in terms of being alive and having been loved. Being healthy and not deficit for anything. For all that Almighty has provided us in terms of requirement and abundance. For nature and natural therapies.

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Go through your day noticing and being thankful for the little things.  Let your grateful nature flow out to others around you. 

As you practice the small things it becomes easier and easier to feel grateful for more and more things.  Let that attitude spread out even further to your acquaintances and finally to the world at large.

Practice makes it perfect.  Pretty soon you will find that you are more grateful and happier.

The best way to be grateful is to appreciate everything universe offers with an open heart.

Because the universe never makes mistakes, it always makes miracles.

I am one, you are too!!

Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” –William Arthur Ward

Tell your co-worker how happy you are that the two of you are working together.  Notice something about your spouse or child (or best friend) that you hadn’t noticed before and let them know how grateful you are that they have that quality.

1. Share a specific example of something they did for you and how it made a difference in your life.

2. Do something little but thoughtful for them.

3. Give a hug.

4. Tell them you’re there if they have anything they want to talk about.

5. Give them something of yours that you think they would enjoy.

6. Invite them to do something you know they’ve always wanted to do.

7. Encourage them to try something you know they want to try.

8. Offer to do something you know they don’t enjoy doing.

9. Compliment them on a talent, skill, or strength that you admire.

10. Look them straight in the eyes and say, “You make the world a better place.”

We all have something or someone to be grateful for. Invest in yourself by taking the time to be grateful throughout your days.

Perfection, Self-Help

Lets be focused during this pandemic

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Self-control is the only thing that can help us focus to master almost anything into our life. When we have self-knowledge that’s when we will be able to focus on the things that we want to be done.

By self-knowledge, one must take full control of mind and the body will follow along.

In other words, one must become the master and not the slave of own self.

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First, it’s totally normal for our mind to reject new thoughts and ideas. It’s just part of the Law of Attraction learning curve. The idea is to focus on feeling good. When purposely creating through Law of Attraction, you are trying to override your current programming in order to create a new belief about your desire. However, in order to create a new belief, it normally takes many times thinking a new thought before it sounds logical. When your new thought starts sounding more logical and you can feel your new belief forming in terms of how feel about it, you know you’re on the right track!

Focus is the result of contraction and attention while attempting on doing something. These attributes are easily said than done. Practice makes it perfect!

“He’s commanded the one who can’t obey himself.”

One must pay attention to the reactions to things, how he/she process them internally, judge them. Do the best job you can in understanding your own reactions and biases. Then work towards making those thoughts the most positive and productive they can be.

Well it really does take a moment in our life where we choose to go a little “crazy” and give our self the right to really BELIEVE that wildly unbelievable things can start to happen for us.

Our logical minds keep us from trying new things. Logic will protect us from risky unfamiliar endeavours. It protects us from the possibility of failure.

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Here is the thing – put logic aside here. Logic will not help you manifest anything. It’s not logical anyone who is not a millionaire already to become a millionaire. Statistically speaking, you must know that most business fails within a hand full of years. Most marriages fail. Most jobs end. Life ends and you don’t even know when. Don’t go by logic or statistics.

  • Live your life! Don’t fear failure. Embrace the opportunities that may come in between.
  • Exchange focusing on logic to focusing on potential. Focus on what can be.

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Get Creative During Quarantine

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Time to ‘BITE’ away this quarantine time!

Let’s get creative…
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Isolated! Everyone seems to be talking about isolation and being isolated these days, isn’t it? Like many I have also been trying to seek out silver linings. Worked hard to understand isolation – not just in dictionary but by experiencing it, living through it in today’s prevailing conditions.

Isolation I feel is passing negative energies among us by making us think we are left alone and locked down. Are We? We need to think on this the other way around! Prisoners in cell are isolated, as they can’t meet anyone. Person suffering from dangerous – spreading diseases are isolated, to prevent the spread! People in another country or place separated from their family and loved ones are isolated, wherein they don’t have anyone to talk or have emotional and mental support. We, on the other hand are safe in our homes with our families. We are truly blessed. We have someone to live with under same roof. Place to roam around in our own paradise. Excess to technology via all available gadgets through social media and internet. We in every way are connected – just bound to Stay In and not go Out!

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Rather than this time taking a toll on us, we should make the best of this opportunity. Knowingly or unknowingly prayers are answered. Asking ‘A break’ from almighty. So now, we have asked for it, and we have it!

At this point in time, we are homebound, so we need to get a balanced stimulation from basic activities at home. Just make sure that the stimulation isn’t coming from one place, like a computer screen. Try not to think about missing your original life. Set a long-term goal.

Don’t think of self-isolation as losing your precious time. Enjoy the lack of social pressure. This is a great – opportunity to anchor yourself. You are not different; you are still you. It’s the lifestyle that’s changed.

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I am sure through hard earned money giving sweat and blood, houses are built by our ancestors or us. But have we spent quality time in it? No right? So why not now? Convert our home in dream project of what we like to do! Living room can be our relaxing area or office area which is much in demand this day. Work from home! Place a yoga mat and let the room be your workout place. Start spending more time with indoor plants if you love nature, get more of them. Nourish them.

Expand your creativity by getting more experience in planting. If you are a cooking fan, time to explore kitchen and become an upcoming master chef! If you were a person who loved painting but have forgotten it due to lack of busy schedule, this is the time. Play with colours and let your soul get wet in the rain creating rainbow of your feeling pouring the colours back in life. Same goes for music, dancing, singing, crafting, knitting, writing and much more. Who and what is stopping you!

Once u start now and if you continue being interest and are enjoying the creative activity, then you keep practising and receiving feedback. ‘‘The higher – level creativity we see in quarantine times is vital. But do not let the existence of possible superstars stifle your own creativity.’’

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With enough time, deliberate practice, focus and improvement, you may advance to expert level creativity. Sometimes, a creator’s contribution out lives them and continue to influence a field and be enjoyed or used for generations after their death. You don’t have to be working for a cure or entertaining millions for your ideas to have value for yourself, your friends, or the longer community. Creative activities can help you reduce stress, handle trauma, and improve your mood – all of which are particularly helpful at the current moment.

It’s been already more than a month in confinement, I am far from happy. Every day I follow news, graphics on how many people are recovered, how many new infections, and how many succumbed. Covid-19 has helped me refocus my thoughts to the present moment.

Right now, I don’t have time to think about my career, future, plans. All I want right now is to keep my family alive and happy. We can survive with nominal and basic things. Covid-19 is truly both a physical and mental challenge. I browse social media and see some people are happy that they can hear the birds again. I get it, it is nature’s revenge as humanity failed to protect it.

We humans are getting a lesson in humility. We are not just confined to a place, but it seems in time as well. In the midst of all this I have relearnt the importance of letting go.

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‘DISTANCE’ Never makes you distant

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Thinking loud as of present situation is demanding this that is distance getting us distant with all our relations during this pandemic when we all are quarantine? This tricky situation in all of ours’s life what we are facing, that does distance between two persons make them distant? Well answer to this question vary from person to person on personal experience and how they handle their relationship. Distance cannot be only in romantic relationship, let me make myself clear here! It can be between friends, siblings, parents, mother-daughter, teacher-students, boss-employees and all those who you can think of right now. Any relation that makes your soul happy. Makes your day brighter. Keeps you going for the day, week, month, year and life!

First thing we need to know; it’s gonna be hard.

Not being able to see their smile or feel them will be tough, and you’ll get a sense of loneliness. But, if you’re lucky, so will be he/she. It means that both of you are feeling the same feeling that you want each other. Make sure to keep up with them, ask about how their day was and be affectionate, keeping your expectation at a bay. You can get to know them more by calling on the phone, texting each other, and/or video calls, all perfect ways to maintain a strong relationship.

You’ll have to know that not many people can do a long-distance relationship because of the fact that they can’t see each other. But, if you can have a strong relationship from a long-distance, you’ll find a love better than any relationship you can have with a person near you, because once you finally see them in real life, the outcome is much better.

If you believe that you found the right person, are smart with your decision, and can maintain loyalty to this person, then absolutely go for it.

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  1. Maturity.
    Long distance relationship works but it’s not for everyone. First, distance should never be a sole reason breaking up because many people made it work. Yes, many. Why to be immature about it by making it an issue for breaking up. What made it work for others is this…

    “We both want it and so distance is irrelevant to us.”
  2. Know what you want. Openness.
    What do you want from this relationship and does the other person is in mutual agreement? This is where both have to be open in sharing exactly what they desire from each other.

    Whatever it is, there is no right or wrong.

    There is only knowing what both want and they both agreed on it.

    Being open, honest is going to make communication amazing. It will make the meeting face to face amazing. It will remove awkwardness. That means no lying. Keep it real because you will meet, and trust is a very fragile thing.
  3. There will always be Insecurities
    What really gets in the way, is the maturity and next is the insecurities. You will always have insecurities. You can receive a text or an email and take it in the wrong way. So, issues like jealousy, possessiveness strike in then your words or their words become mis constructed and feelings get hurt. Distrust starts to happen with lots of assumptions.

    How do you then deal with such things?
  4. Communication
    If people don’t have the time for communication then leave long distance alone. The distance is not then problem it’s maturity, insecurities and a lack of communication. Communication is needed for long distance to work. That’s where a lot of its success came from. If you feel frustrated waiting for call or message, figure it out with using technology. You can now chat, send private messages and text…
  5. Trust
    The core of the long – distance relationship is fragile, and it’s called trust. At some point there must be trust. You need to trust someone and yes, it is easier said than done when we get insecure people, carrying a lot of baggage who ghost on people.

    Focus on nurturing your relationship not ego, tricks, manipulation and jealousy. Make every communication count.

    It’s not easy to trust but there comes a point that if you want it to grow, then trust is the next factor that needs to happen.
  6. Conversation
    Don’t follow the mainstream because they all say talk to all like you do with everyone else. Because they all the same…

    There is a language. You can call it decency. This is most powerful tool. It makes the conversation amazing, exciting and always happening.

    The art of conversation has truly been lost. Mainstream and many authors have watered it down to appeal to perceptions that is favoured by their social peers. It does a disservice to many couples and lovers around the world because they struggle with conversation.

    It’s a skill to not be taken lightly.

Let’s free ourselves from the boundaries we have set. Break the walls. Communicate and spread love expressing our feelings. As we never know ‘Kal ho na ho’ (today is all we have)!