‘Life is a roller coaster ride.’ It’s full of ups and downs. We indeed have many moments in life where we celebrate and feel blessed. But sometimes, life puts us in a situation where everything seems to fall apart. We try hard, but the problem doesn’t improve. We try to seek help from others, but either no one come to help, or their support doesn’t make a difference. In this situation, we feel totally helpless. This is a very critical situation. This is the situation that makes the difference. The difference between a ‘common man’ and a ‘great man’.
Generally, in such a situation, maximum people lose their hope. Some even commit suicide. Some feel it’s their destiny, and nothing can be improved, and they leave everything on fate and give up trying to improve the situation.
It’s not that I have not faced such a trapped situation in my life. A couple of times, I have felt devasted! Especially when my father left us for his journey hereafter! He was suffering from a chronic disease. And I have witnessed him suffer for more than a year. His last 3 months were Pathetic were we all were helpless. It was difficult to see my mother in that situation more than him. To survive with a bedridden person with the transferable disease when she suffers from chronic diseases and is vulnerable. I truly felt deficient at that time in my life. Yet, I saw my mother kept trying. She maximized her effort, going out of her limitations. She breached her comfort zone and went beyond her boundaries.
This was the time in my life when I needed to keep patience. Had to be optimistic that everything would improve. WE needed to be strong. We should keep believing in ourselves and our capabilities. In such situations in life, we need to show extreme desire to live.
I learned here that when you feel helpless, 1st thing that you need to remember is that this situation is not permanent. It is temporary, and it will change. One should never forget this and keep a positive mindset. You need to try hard to improve the situation even when your efforts are making no difference. You need to think beyond your current situations. Make short-term and long-term goals to beat the severity of situations. Keep yourself motivated and inspired.
The worst situation is not permanent. Things will start improving after some time and boost your courage and hope. A day will come when you will find yourself out of such a situation. Every situation can be solved, even from the lowest place in the world.
Feeling low and negative can be an outcome of a situation when one must have felt unsatisfied with life for own reasons. For example, it might be a lack of relationship with a partner, problems at home, or unhappiness with the current job. But, to be honest, it doesn’t matter on the level of taking away life.
Our lives are concise, sometimes very exhausting, it is frustrating to feel like you live at the wrong place and the wrong time, like nothing in the world can make it feel better.
I felt it too…
I started to do some meditation. It gave me an excellent perspective to look outside of my negative feelings and, at times, ego. Then, I began with gym and exercising – sports because when the body feels good, the soul goes with it automatically.
The most important thing I did was create an alternative world of my own, inside my head, that no one can take away from me, where no one judges me, where there are no boundaries. It made my dreams possible, made me feel close than ever. I started writing my journal. Finally, I had something to look up to, something to dream about, a passion that could make me awake all night just of the excitement of doing it to the following day.
‘Love yourself, everyone is unique and if you don’t think that about yourself then you don’t see yourself for who you really are’!
‘Change is constant.’
Attempting for that change is a matter of choice in something being. The journey of self-discovery begins with acceptance.
‘‘Everyone wants to think out the box, but no one dares to stand apart from crowd.’’
Believe in time. It has the power one could ever imagine!
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