Live a Healthy and long life
– Holding onto a grudge: Slow poisoning.
Living a healthy life starts with a healthy mind. It’s not easy to control our minds, especially when hurt or someone has wronged us. When we try to forget something or someone, being upset is natural. People tell you to divert your mind and thoughts, but that is easier said than done.
Get yourself busy, go for a walk, read a book, listen to music, watch a movie, or go to a friend or someone you trust and talk to them about your feelings. But in reality, when our mind is angry, and our heart is hurt, we will not be at peace. And nothing will work. Different individuals have different ways of dealing with themselves. My way may not be the way for others, and so is vice-a-versa. If you think there’s something wrong, go to a professional.
I deal with my feelings when I am feeling down is to playing with my daughter. I find comfort in my slight angle by playing and talking to her. I get assured that happiness lies in moments and not unmaterialistic things. But if the matter is serious, I confide with someone I trust.
A hot water bath and soothing music also help me reduce my anxiety. Last but not least, I have a habit of ‘pen it down. By doing so, the negativity is out from my system and once done, I tear it off and throw it into the garbage.
There are various ways to deal with this situation and for grudges not making a permanent home. If two people are mature, they should resolve an argument by talking it out. They should meet each other, speak clearly about the issue and try to fix it.
Since the relationship is meaningful, negative emotions and grudges, which are holding you and can weigh you down, compile into a more significant issue, leading further to bitterness, destruction, anger, or even depression. Because if not done this way. Then adverse effects are seen more on the person holding the grudges than on the one you have. This can only cause a high level of stress and self-destruction.
Why should we self-invite the health issues for ourselves? Try to get it fixed. If it can’t set, let it go. Holding on to a grudge hurts. A grudge makes you a prisoner in your own virtual prison cell. Break free and go enjoy life.
Holding a grudge against someone can hardly hurt them. Even if it does, the effect is much on you than on them. People who hold grudges get angry and fight a battle inside. Every little thing infuriates them because their heart is not free.
There’s nothing wrong with getting offended, but one should not make the mistake of taking things too far. Hold it for one more minute or simply walk away from the scene. Learn from it, and don’t let yourself become a victim of it again. You must understand and accept that you’ll always be hurt by people in this world. Grudges stop your progress in life. Forgive even if the other person is not ready to make up. God would take over and touch their heart for your sake.
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