Live a Healthy and long life
– Holding onto a grudge: Slow poisoning.
Living a healthy life starts with a healthy mind. It’s not easy to control our minds, especially when we are hurt, or someone has wronged us. When we try to forget something or someone, being upset is natural. People tell you to divert your mind and your thoughts, but that is easier said than done.
Get yourself busy, go for a walk, read a book, listen to music, watch a movie or go to a friend or someone whom you trust and talk to them about what you are feeling. But in reality, when mind is angry, and our heart is hurt, we will not be at peace. And, nothing will work. Different individuals have different ways of dealing with themselves. My way may not be the way for others and so is vice-a-versa. If you think there’s something wrong, go to a professional.
The way I deal with my feelings when I am feeling down is to play with my daughter. I find comfort in my little angle by playing and talking to her. I get assured that happiness lies in moments and not unmaterialistic things. But if matter is serious, I confide with someone whom I trust.
Hot water bath and soothing music also helps me to reduce my anxiety. Last but not the least I have a habit to ‘pen it down’. By doing so the negativity is out from my system and once done so, I tear it off and throw it to garbage.
There are various ways to deal with this situation and for grudges not to make a permanent home in us. If two people are mature, then they should resolve an argument by talking it out with each other. They should meet each other, speak clearly about the issue and try to get it resolved.
Since relationship is important then negative emotions and grudges, which is holding you and can weigh you down, compiling into a bigger issue, leading further to bitterness, destruction, anger or even depression. Because if not done this way. Then negative effects are seen more on the person holding the grudges, then for the one whom you hold. This can only cause high level of stress and self-destruction.
Why should we self-invite the health issues for ourselves. Try to get it fixed. If can’t fixed, let it go. Holding on to a grudge hurts. A grudge makes you a prisoner in your own virtual prison cell. Break free and go enjoy life.
Holding a grudge against someone can hardly hurt them. Even if it does, the effect is much on you than them. People who hold grudges get angry and fight a battle inside. Every little thing infuriates them because their heart is not free.
There’s nothing wrong with getting offended, but one should not make the mistake of taking things too far. Hold if for one more minute or simply walk away from the scene. Learn from it and don’t let yourself become victim of it again. You must understand and accept the fact that in this world you’ll always be hurt by people. Grudges stops your progress in life. Forgive even if the other person is not ready to make up. God would take over and touch their heart for your sake.