We expect life to be a continuous journey towards perfection when in fact life is full of hoops, jumps and randomness. Things don’t always go the way we want it to. Random events occur frequently in our lives and is in our best interest to become aware of how random life really is.
I stopped blaming other people for being the cause of my unhappiness.
It isn’t easy to stop and it sure requires a lot of honesty and courage to do so.
It is always easier to blame someone else to throw away some responsibility but, in order to grow, you have to accept the consequences of your acts.
You have to be determinate and perseverant to fix your flaws but, when you do succeed – you and only you are the source of your triumph – and at this moment, you can be infinitely proud of yourself.
By changing this habit, you will have the feeling that you can change everything in your life – as long as it is something that you can actually control.
Expecting. I quit it.
Expectations are nice to have. But some expectations are dangerous like cancer.
- I stopped expecting people to be perfect.
- I stopped expecting people to be nice to me if I’m nice to them.
- I stopped expecting things to be easy.
- I stopped expecting people to leave everything for me and be with me.
- I stopped expecting life to be fair.
Living with guilt and regret.
I stopped feeling guilty about the past.
Having guilt is like having a 100 pound weight on your back holding you down. You are not able to move. You feel like you are walking through mud up to your knees.
I am not even close to being perfect, so I have done things in the past that I am not proud of. For years I was filled with guilt and shame because of my decisions.
I didn’t make mistakes, I made conscious decisions even though they were the wrong decisions. Too many people misuse the word mistake to pass the blame to others and not take responsibility.
I am a big believer in personal development so I work constantly on becoming the best version of myself. I read and listen to books to improve my mindset regularly.
This transformed my whole life.
This way we can then learn how to prepare for these events and realize that eventually, maybe, hopefully; life will balance itself out again while learning a few things about yourself along the way.
Published with: Times of India – Reader’s Blog