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Q. Have you ever presented a ‘Fake’ compliment back in response to someone complimenting you?
If we start flattering positively, false flattery can sometimes make others happy. Often, people give fake responses while receiving a compliment to not sound rude. Compliments may be affected, but the love or efforts of a person who gave wouldn’t be. It’s more important to make someone feel good about themselves, and that could be a more genuine reason for giving compliments.
World today needs more kindness than truth. If you know someone who is having a tough day and struggling, I don't see any harm in giving compliments.
World today needs more kindness than truth. If you know someone with a hard day and struggling, I don’t see any harm in giving compliments. I would do that whole day to make someone feel good. People these days are more prone to social media to run away from reality, seeking happiness on social media platforms to make themselves feel better. So, if a fake compliment can make someone happier for a little while also, why not! People crave more ‘likes’ on social media platforms like Facebook and Instagram. They thrive and believe in this count, though they must have not met them personally! They think they are judged based on the comments and likes of the photo and stories they put up.
But at the same time, I feel being fake can also be manipulative. In business, and especially building networks, should always lead with values and truth. Because with fake flattering, false value are delivered, basically being manipulated and it always gets catches. Any long-term relationship cannot be built on playing fake I feel. Why to create a bad impression for our self. Highly not recommended. It is very important to cultivate the quality of being natural.
Fake compliments at times are given to the boss or in the working environment on a lighter note to build relationships. There is nothing wrong with it. Till it is safe and not harming anyone’s sentiments and emotions.
People at times suffer from self-love, so a chief cure for it is the practice of love for others and can this can be done through positive flattering.
We get confused about whether to stay real at times or do flattery. Flattery might give the other person a sense of inferiority complex. But by talking to the other person, if you can eliminate the cause and provide some happiness with confidence, then why not! Go for it.