True friends are difficult to find, which is why we must cherish the friends we have.
Friendship is a relationship where a person has the freedom to choose another person they enjoy spending time with. Most of the time, it’s our heart finding peace and comfort with this person or with these people. Friendship is the home for every wandering soul which is lost.
When you are friends with a person, you can tell them everything without the fear of being judged. Friendship can be cultivated with time and understanding. Some companies are strong and can withstand the test of time and roll like dice when life throws them a curveball. Good friends will give you the space you want when you need it and love you more when you are broken or lack direction.
‘‘When you meet someone and become friends, still not very close but are good friends, your heart starts feeling happy, contemplate and at peace’’ – means you have found the greatest blessing of the universe in the form of ‘friendship’ for yourself.
We love to be surrounded by friends who shower their unconditional love, affection and admiration. No matter how independent, bold, empowered or economically secure we may be, we all seek to bond with other people deep in our hearts. We all seek that ‘anchor’ in our lives. Relationships with our friends make us strong, grow, enrich, evolve and make happy.
In friendship, you don’t have high hopes, and expectations like, for that matter, in any other relationship. It’s when we expect more from others than what we expect from ourselves, our relationships are not going to be nearly as enduring as we might hope.
No one can make promises to bring perfection to a relationship. We need to be willing to accept and forgive people for their mistakes. It’s equally important to acknowledge when we make mistakes so that it’s easier for a friend to forgive and move forward in friendship, and vice-a-versa.
It is also essential to respect other people’s boundaries and their stories. Some people are challenging to get close to and take time to open up. Don’t push them away.
Good friends can acknowledge that everyone is human and don’t judge you for your choices. If you can’t respect your friend’s choices or decisions, which can be different from what you feel is ‘best’, then try to explain and sort it out, else you need to exit from the relationship. It’s not necessary or compulsory for friends to ‘like’ or ‘approve’ their friend’s choices, but good friends accept their friend’s options no matter what. Friendship is the most complicated relationship to maintain.
Maintaining the dignity of friendship in its purest and devoted form is not everyone’s cup of tea. However, I genuinely admire those who can keep their company till the end of their lives, moreover, in its real form without manipulating name or relation to keep it safe.
I wouldn’t have survived if I had NO ONE to confide in. It’s a feeling of stability – to know that I have someone to fall back on in trouble, someone who understands.
Friendship is a two-way street and requires giving and receiving. sOften, you are friends with someone for years and decades but don’t find that comfort, understanding, and peace. On the other hand, it may happen that you just became friends with someone, starting to know a stranger, still feels that’s it’s a lifetime friendship – like you have been knowing each other forever. And then such new friendship goes year long, leaving a mark to all – to understand the depth of lifetime friendship.
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