I want to implement the habit of staying humble and showing gratitude in all my actions. I want to learn to overcome my negativity, predominantly negative thoughts surrounding me, making my life a hell and replace them with positivity. And this is possible only with the improvisation of staying humble in everything in my life.
Gratitude is synonymous with thankfulness.
You can be thankful (feel gratitude) for waking up in the morning first thing.
Wise people feel gratitude for life’s pain and loss. Pain and loss teach one that nothing lasts forever and so to treasure the beautiful moments of life. Strength comes from pain if approached correctly. Pain destroys some people, but that strength is only obtained from pain.
Gratitude simply realizes that life is a gift, hard times build strength, and loss gives an appreciation for what and who you have in your life.
Have you ever sat by the window all lost and depressed, and suddenly a little bird comes, fills you up with hope, and flies away? Life always has something to teach us with every step we take. For example, any relationship’s emotions attached to ‘Love’ can either make or break us.
In this book, ‘Destined to heal within’, Naira has some of the most touching and rarest moments of her life: Lifelong friendship and the pain of seeing her friend on a deathbed, breathing the air by the beach, embracing love in her life, liveliness to lead life along with happiness, later facing the consequences to choose between personal and professional life and much more. Would Naira be able to handle the things that life threw her way? Would she be able to heal along the way? Read “Destined to heal” to know more about Naira’s journey.
‘Destined to heal within’ is a novel with highs and lows of friendship, love, and life narrated and engraved in its pages.
Let’s go through each chapter’s burb and know what the novel, mainly each chapter contains – only highlights without spoiling the story 🙂
I want to share a few dialogues from the novel that is captivating and that the readers have shared with me across the world. Also, while reading the novel, a few form an image of the same in the reader’s mind.
Chapter 1
LITTLE BIRDIE ON THE WINDOW
Chapter 1 is about a girl called Naira going on an international vacation with her friend Tisha. A brief introduction about how her friend Tisha is: Naira also receives a letter on the trip, name withheld, taking her to her initial days of their MBA.
Chapter 2
SHOP TILL YOU DROP
Chapter 2 is about shopping and feeling good about yourself. Also, chapter 2 highlights Naira’s 1st coffee date and the rest of the day being interrogated by her friend Tisha with questions like “Whom, Where, Why, When, etc.etc.”
Chapter 3
ERUPTION OF PAIN
Chapter 3 Naira was worried about why Tisha didn’t come to college and later found out about the tragedy with Tisha. Naira’s found peace with his new friend Ivan while Tisha was away. The highlight of the chapter is the realisation – “How difficult it is to see our loved ones in pain. It is more painful then being in pain ourselves.”
Chapter 4
A NEW DAWN
Chapter 4 Naira receives a heartwarming surprise from Tisha. Naira started to share a few episodes of her life, narrating how lively Tisha was and how she used to play pranks on her. Ivan enjoyed listening to their stories, expressing he must have met Naira & Tisha earlier in his life as he felt he had lost much fun by not being with them and regretted it.
Chapter 5
SPLASH OF MEMORIES
Chapter 5 Is the realisation of the developing emotions and the first fight between Naira & Ivan. It is fun to read why they fought in the first place and how they patched up. Also, the chapters define the first gift that Ivan gifted to Naira. The chapters also showcase their chatting and Ivan’s letter for Naira – A must-read letter!
Chapter 6
A NEW BEGINNING
Have you ever had a challenging but fun-filled day? Have you ever given dares to your friends or received one? Throughout this chapter, you will observe the fun the friends had and how Naira gave Ivan a dare. Ivan accepted the offer but with one condition: he could ask for anything in return once he won.
So check out for yourself who won and who lost. Also, before ending her day, Naira went to the hospital to meet Tisha and saw the movements in her ward and the panel of doctors standing by her bedside covering the entire area… What must have happened to her now?
Chapter 7
FLIES HIGH WITHOUT WINGS
After spending a beautiful day with friends at the mall and giving dare to them, which only Ivan accepted and fully fulfilled, Naira felt content. She started a beautiful morning, sitting on her balcony and enjoying her day. Naira was grateful for many things in her life, but the supreme two for today were Tisha back in her life, and her heart had already fallen for Ivan and getting reciprocal for her feeling for the same from Ivan. The chapters beautifully define how the moments in life should be cherished.
Ivan met Naira the next day and told her he had learnt a lot from her and the day they spent together in the mall with all her dares. While having fun still, there was life learning lessons that the day taught him that he would preserve, never forget, and henceforth implement in his life.
Naira collected memories and gifts, treasuring them in the box and her heart and had almost forgotten about them. Is this what usually happens with everyone? The same happened with Naira until she had a reason for celebration, and with a unique idea about the plan of celebration, she got her things out of the treasure box and lived the moments once again. Numerous flashbacks of memories with each gift hit Naira hard.
Chapter 9
THE MIDAS TOUCH
First love, first coffee date, first-ever confession, first romantic walk on a rainy day. And the comfort I received while resting my head on his shoulder for the first time was unbeatable, like all stress melting away with the rain, and I was getting drenched in his love – these are the emotions Naira lived in that one single day!
Chapter 10
ONE STEP AT A TIME
A time comes in Naira’s life when she desperately waits for Ivan. Want Ivan to attend the surprise she had organised for Tisha. Also, she wanted both of them to meet today in person. But luck was not in favour of the Naira. Check it out for yourself; what happened? Naira also wanted her first kiss to do wonders – like fireworks! But it was the opposite of what she wanted. So now she is confused about her feelings for Ivan. Is she genuinely in love with Ivan? Or is it just infatuation? She still needs to find it out for herself.
Chapter 11
CONFUSED FOR CONFESSION
The chapter will take you on a ride to a Zumba class and how the sneak peek happens between classes. The chemistry between best friends is showcased, how one need not say anything, but the other one understands everything.
Chapter 12
A NEW OPPORTUNITY
Life never stops giving surprises. Will it be the same with Naira? Not knowing her future, she gave her best for the exams and nailed it. Soon she got an offer from a multinational company for an internship for three months, but the only condition was to leave her city and her loved ones and go to Mumbai. She never knew after going to a new city. She would be facing new challenges and missing her loved ones like hell. How would Ivan react to her new lifestyle? Would Ivan help Naira to cope with work pressure and her health?
Chapter 13
A CLUE
After completing her internship, Naira got a job offer from the same organisation. The first thing she did was called Tisha and inform her about the new development. Gradually Naira got busy with her new job and in the new city, but she was missing her hometown, Tisha and Ivan. Time flew. Suddenly while fixing a date for her upcoming meeting, she remembered it was Ivan’s birthday shortly. Planning for a surprise visit to Ivan and spending the whole day with him, she immediately booked the tickets. Before meeting Ivan, Naira wanted to spend time with Tisha, so she spent the night with her. As Tisha talked, she suddenly remembered her accident, the car that had hit her, and its number plate! This began a new chapter in Naira’s and Tisha’s life.
Chapter 14
LIFE IS UNPREDICTABLE
Naira had made all the preparations much in advance for Ivan’s birthday. But she hardly knew the day would end up opposite to what she had planned. The drive was scenic and romantic, as Naira wanted, but the romance was missing on the drive that day! Why? Isn’t it frustrating when you love someone, you end up only arguing after a particular time in life? Like you both cannot communicate without arguing. It is more frustrating to understand and to be understood. Also, the day wrapped up with the much-awaited mystery of ‘Who is the culprit?’
Chapter 15
SETTING PRIORITIES
Naira was doing good with her professional life when suddenly, her personal life demanded more of her. She never in her wildest dream had thought about an emergency and witnessing hospital life again.
Once again, she saw her loved one on the hospital bed after Tisha, shattering her into bits and pieces.
The only solace was the words spoken by her loved one, whom she trusted more than her life.
‘It is incredible how words and kindness have the power to heal, perhaps much more than medicines.’
“The one whom you trust the most betrays your trust.”
Naira now realised how difficult it must have been for Ivan to survive without her when she accepted the job offer from a multinational company in Mumbai and got extremely busy with her new job and new life. It is good to be professional, keeping yourself engaged with work but not at the cost of keeping your loved ones waiting…
Destiny was giving back Naira now – as she was back in her hometown, but Ivan was not there. This time it was Ivan who was away and not only from the city but also from the country.
Waiting for replies and delay in communication was irritating both of them, and the distance seemed to be also peeping in on their relationship.
Slowly the return date of Ivan from days became weeks, and from weeks became months.
Naira was still waiting, but the messages, responses and replies were getting lesser, halted, and at a point, it ended… Keeping Naira waiting…
Why has Ivan done this to Naira???
Chapter 17
BACK TO THE PRESENT
One of the rarest chapters with dialogues/wallpapers on all my favourite characters in the novel – Naira, Kiaan and Ivan! Tisha is supporting Naira to accept reality and move on! Easy said than done! Naira is also working hard to get out of the pit and start over again! But the hard she tries, the harder she is pulled back by the memories of Ivan. The time spent with him, the photographs clicked together, the long late-night chats, nothing allows Naira to move ON. Will she be able to settle down? Of course, but the question remains – Where is Ivan? Why has he left Naira?
Chapter 18
DESTINY HAS ITS OWN PLANS
Time stops for no one! It was the same for Naira. She had started to adjust to her life without Ivan devoting herself to work. Days were pretty busier, but nights still haunted her…
During this phase of her life, she found comfort in the friendship of Kiaan. Unknowingly but following the same lifestyle that she had lived with Ivan.
But as said, ‘Destiny had its own plans.’ Why is it so? Find out yourself by reading the chapter.
Chapter 19
NO WAY OUT
“The healers heal themselves, by healing others.”
The last piece of the jigsaw puzzle was finally solved. Finally, Naira had answers to all her questions and sufferings!
It was a blessing in disguise.
Now it’s an ‘END’ of the novel or the ‘BEGINNING OF A NEW END’ – readers must decide and comment!
The novel has much more fun, snippets, sneak-peak and plot twists that are not mentioned or revealed here purposely for the readers to read and enjoy.
Those who have already read know what I am talking about.
Those who have yet to read – need to find out what exactly I am trying to hint you at!
It was just like any other day. Nothing special or planned! The day was going ‘ON’ at its average pace. However, suddenly, my husband offered to take us out on a long drive. My little angel and I readily agreed! It hardly took us 30 mins to get ready, and we were on wheels! The cold breeze and lovely gathering of clouds in the sky were complimenting us for the drive. We almost drove for 100 km with a single stopover for ice cream and coffee for ourselves. Just then, while sitting on the bench on the lakeside, watching the vast mountains, I saw my daughter innocently licking her ice cream.
She was looking so adorable that I couldn’t take my eyes off her!
Realizing that getting busy with our daily chores, we often become ungrateful for forgetting that happiness lies in the small things in our day-to-day lives! How often do we take time out to be grateful and live just in the moment, appreciating all we have rather than complaining about all we want, desire or hunt for…?
Few moments of silence and not knowing what happened to me, I teased her and played around with her. I was cuddling her, making her laugh her heart out. She hugged me and started jumping out of excitement. The innocence in her smile crispiness in her voice made the day more beautiful. Making me feel blessed and grateful for all that I have in life.
As soon as she was done with her ice-cream, I took her to a nearby pleasantry shop and asked her to get something for her.
She started to pick up all sorts of colourful toys, filling them up in her little hands and tiny pockets! I couldn’t stop laughing. Just then, she found an ‘ELSA TUSUM DOLL’ and threw the rest of everything away! I took that doll in hand, made it a puppet and started teasing her, calling her name in a blabbering tune…. “We got one more pet name for her! Our secret.” Our conservations started with that doll making her a puppet taking her to a fairyland that got converted into a story…
Not realizing that almost 20 mins had passed, we were busy playing like this. People have stopped and gathered around enjoying our ‘Doll Puppet Show’. Those were the most unforgettable minutes wherein we had forgotten everything else, especially me! I was just in that moment with her! I came back to the present with the sound of applause around me. Feeling embarrassed at the same time, glad, I got up, smiled at everyone, took her in my arms and went to the counter. Then, happily, purchased the ELSA DOLL and left.
It has been a couple of years now, my little angel from single digit has grown to double digit with her age, still our puppet shows in the morning and odd times in the day to play around with the tiny little doll is ‘ON’ making us both forget our actual AGE.
For a Long time, I have wanted to start my day by writing my mind here, Pouring down my feelings, emotions, sentiments, experience, and whatever I have gone through. Finally thought, why not start from today itself. As its 1 October today!
What’s so special about today? We, ll everything. We, humans, tend to be ungrateful, complaining more and being less thankful. I have learned my hard lessons from life, and the 1st and foremost is of being ‘Thankful’. So I am starting my beautiful day today with a smile, thanking you for everything – EVERYTHING in my life. I have witnessed that we can stay happy if we complain less and look at our lives with all the happenings with a different attitude.
Today, I am elated as my daughter’s exams got over yesterday. Ah, what a relief, indeed. Though still, she is in her primary grades, the stress of her exams for more than two weeks I felt was on me. I felt as if I was appearing for my board exams. I studied every subject with her in detail to make her understand and prepare for exams. No doubt, I revised my old portion and learned a lot of new things. So, Yes, I am grateful.
She took me to my previous days of learning. I was forced to recall the combined studies that I had been doing with my friends and classmates. What fun it used to be. More gossip and fewer studies (I guess that’s what combined studies are! Isn’t it?). Midnight tea breaks and instant Maggie Noodles were the centres of attraction rather than the focus for the result and marks. We have one or two black sheep in the herd who were studious and were behind the ranks, but the rest all of us were badass cracked heads 🙂
All the fuss and drama that we went through jointly for the past two weeks were thrilling. So finally, yeah, here I am celebrating the HALF YEARLY EXAMS completed and looking forward to the ANNUAL EXAMS now.
Just two days for exams to get over, and marks have started to pour in. MCQ marks! First, I learned the abbreviation of MCQ – Multiple Choice Questions! I am not so into the marks scored for this year’s exams, but still, I am! Mind understands that we are going through hard times. This Pandemic situation has made everyone adopt the change with new lifestyles. I am debating with myself for marks scored and grades received! Is it essential? Especially in today’s situation! When all our children are taking online classes. It’s the virtual school they are attending. More than eight months have passed, and they have not met their friends, talked with them personally or hugged them. No more going out of home or doing any physical activities. Everyone is just trapped in their own secured homes for the sake of safety! So what children are actually memorizing by course learning and understanding, are these things gonna Work for them in future or in practical life? I agree that knowledge is necessary, but how we use it and implement it in our useful lives is altogether a different chapter.
Well, Writing my journal here is On & OFF. So Day 3 here precisely can be the other day also :-). Anyways, in no time, it was the weekend. From March 2020, since this Pandemic started, every day has been a working day. At the same time, all days are like weekends. The entire family has ‘Work from home’ schedules. School from home. Initially, it was great, but now it feels like loads of never-ending Work. Household chores, other works, professional Work, personal Work, everything has come under one roof. Pretty sure making everyone go crazy now. Most of us must have gotten acquainted with this new lifestyle, but I am sure many are still struggling to get adjusted and adopt this. It’s not easy, I know. But with no choice left, we have to learn to cope with this routine.
Anyways, so yeah, as I said, it was a weekend, and I decided to treat myself with movie night after a long, long time . . . The other day, I read reviews about the movie ‘Five Feet Apart’ released in 2019. Release Date: 15 March 2019 (USA) Genre: Drama, Romance Director: Justin Baldoni Written by: Mikki Daughtry and Tobia Iaconis Cast: Haley Lu Richardson, Cole Sprouse, Moises Arias
The movie is influenced by the Novel Five Feet Apart by Rachael Lippincott, released on 20 November 2018.
“Humans touch our first form of communication. Safety, Security all in a gentle clasp of fingers or a brush of lips on your soft cheek connects us when we’re happy, bolsters us in times of fear, excites us in times of passion and love. We need that touch from someone we love as much as we need our breath but I never understood the importance of touch. His touch. Until I couldn’t have it. So if you’re watching this, and you’re able, touch him. Touch her. Life’s too short to waste a second.”
Yes, so the entire movie is centrally focused on the importance of human touch and that Stella realized its importance when she couldn’t touch the person she loved more than herself, Will.
She realized the importance of touch when she longed to hug her best friend, but she couldn’t ever again. “Could you ever love someone you can never touch,” This question questions our sanity and our beliefs of love? The answer lies in ourselves, would you ever fall for someone whose lips wouldn’t ever fail on you? Would you stay away from them, just to keep them alive? Would their survival ever mean to you more than yours?
Stella and Will, the protagonists of the drama, unknowingly meet in a hospital, and they are obliged to keep apart six feet at all times. Finally, however, Stella steals an inch from Cystic Fibrosis, and the disease was indeed indebted to her by robbing all her joys of her adolescence, and the distance is reduced to 5 feet. So, that’s why it’s titled Five Feet Apart. Apart from the premier protagonists, you’d love the tale that’s intricately crafted with a huge amount of amour and even all the other characters like Barb, Poe, Julie, and Abby, my personal favourite.
Few of my’ Favourite Dialogues’ from the movie
“If I’m going to die, I’d like to actually live first.”
“How long will I live my life afraid of what-ifs?”
“I’m tired of living without really living.”
“…I want to be fearless and free. It’s just life, Will. It’ll be over before we know it.”
“… Don’t think about what you’ve lost. Think of how much you have to gain. Live, Stella.”
If this year has taught me anything, it’s that grief can destroy a person.”
“I think a well-drawn cartoon can say more than words ever could, you know? It could change minds.”
If you read this till the end, take a deep breath, feel it, feel the life oozing inside you. Be grateful for the breath, be thankful for your life, express your gratitude for everything as not everyone receives the joy you’re treading by.
Day 4
Preparation for upcoming B’day!
A Bundle of Joy
It’s my birthday month. I can see the excitement for my upcomBirthdayhday all around me. All my loved ones are trying to hide it from me though I can quickly feel it. I thought that preparation and planning to surprise me started much before then. My daughter is the most EXCITED to celebrate; it made up a gang with a couple of my close friends and families. All the personal phone calls and their murmuring kept me hooked up and suspicious. The more they tried to hide it, the more I would peep in to destroy their planning. The whole week turned out to be like the ‘Hide & Seek’ game in our house. Can’t wait for the final surprise on my birthday day. I can be a spoiler, but I don’t want to be! So, yeah, here I am supporting them all but keeping quiet and acting as I don’t know anything. . .
But the secret of my life at my home front is ‘I am the Planner’. Planning and implementation can’t be done without me! So YES, I am there but NOTthere. . . He He He. . .
Day 5
Birthday Celebrations
There are Angels on this earth who made my Birthday a Blessed Day!
The day started with a fantastic surprise by my beloved daughter and her father. I could hear their whispers in my sleep in the early morning and knew they were planning out something for the morning and just waiting for me to wake up. As I knew something was cooking up, I took my own sweet time to wake up! My daughter was sleeping with me in the early morning, but I couldn’t find her beside me when I opened my eyes to get up. So I had to scream at both of them to signal that I had woken up. Initially, I thought to creep in the Living Room and surprise them with whatever they were doing, but then as I said, I didn’t want to be a spoiler, so I had to call them to our bedroom.
To my ‘Surprise’ they came up with a cupcake. Candle on top of it and two beautiful fresh ‘RED ROSE’. I was teasing my daughter by not blowing away the candle. She got hyper and stated MAMMA do it! After a few mins of flirting and having fun, I, like a good baby, did what I was asked to do, and they hugged me, singing the ‘Birthday Song’. OnBirthdayhday I was not allowed to make breakfast. So I waited for the next surprise. My favourite Breakfast was presented in the most elegant way. I truly cherished each and every moment of the morning.
My little angel got the ‘Birthday Card’ she had made at night and showed it to her father, announcing proudly that I am the 1st one to wish mamma at midnight 12:00 O’clock. He looked at me, and I couldn’t stop myself but blush.
Then I was honoured with a few of my favourite songs played in the background for almost half of the day. After lunch, my little princess left to surprise me in the evening, starting to have the gala movie time with DAD (daughters really grow up fast). She has planned everything with the selection of the movie, the ambience, décor, and a few snacks. I thoroughly enjoyed the pampering between yes calls and messages for the ‘Birthday Wishes’ that I kept reverting.
After the movie, the doorbell rang as soon as I planned to take a nap. I had my little munchkins on the door. Had a bigger surprise when a few more friends arrived with freshly baked homemade cake. This was a surprise! The real fun started. My daughter and our family and friends had planned this ‘BIG BOX’ surprise. My gift was wrapped in two layers of boxes with lots of confetti and handwritten wishes. My task was to guess who had written which wish, and then only I could proceed.
Guess What? I guessed all the wishes written by whom WRONG! Now, this was the most exciting part. I kept thinking wrong. None of my answers was correct. The room was filled with laughter, and at the same time, it was upsetting and infuriating the rest of them. But I was enjoying it thoroughly. Finally, as they had no choice left, I got all my gifts as they were for me!
The day didn’t end here! As soon as everyone disbursed for the day and I was relaxing on the couch, just 15 mins to go for the clock to strike twelve and change the date and day – the doorbell rang again. I was like, who could be now at this point of time in the night? My little one opened the door, and I had one more surprise. I had one of my best buddies at the door! She came up with her little munchkin and, of course, a DELICIOUS CAKE. Again an advance well, planned surprise which my daughter knew. We cut the cake precisely at 12:00 and had it with a lot of fun and chit chats!
What A Day! I honestly had the best time. Every year I think this is the best BIRTHDAY I have had till now, but the later year proves me wrong with the previous year giving me great memories to cherish with the best time spent with my loved ones.
This blog is especially dedicated to the books – My Books! A Book where I am the AUTHOR!
A few where I am CO-AUTHOR. Will be sharing my collection and contribution to the writing world. Also will keep on adding and updating for future references 🙂
One Step Ahead. Available worldwide on Amazon. Non-Fiction.
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Rating: 4.5 out of 5.
My 1st Book was published worldwide on 17th December 2019
This Book is a collection of various articles and works on non-fiction based on real-life experiences. Subjects like Happiness, Hobbies, Challenges, Perfection, Relationships and Technology are covered in this Book. Personally, I feel we all are full of emotions and sentiments. Knowledge is everywhere and can be enhanced more with experience. We can overcome all negativity and achieve anything through love, friendship, acceptance and hope. Destiny can be made and changed!
Take a look
Worldwide available. Non-Fiction.
2. 3 Trimester of life.
They taught us what pain is… Sacrifice is their Middle name… Yes, they are CALLED as Mothers.
3 trimesters of life. Beginning of motherhood.
Real stories of the mother about the journey of 9 months of having a baby. Released on Mother’s Day.
Motherhood generally describes a part of a woman’s life, but the word often carries a woman’s world in itself. You are frequently asked to get married as soon as you enter a valid age as a girl. Once you are married, the eternal question to plan a baby comes in the queue. Then this story usually starts from the good news. It goes through a long journey of patience for nine months and ends with a melodious cry. This is a story every woman has lived. A story every girl imagines about.
A unique Anthology for Mother’s Day. Launched on 10th May 2020.
Mother – Yes, a small word but carry a lot of strength and power to hold things.
4. Papa – Hamara naam aapse hi hai!
Papa – hamara naam aapse hi hai! Launch date 21st June 2020
An anthology for fathers to show our love, respect and gratitude for fathers worldwide.
For fathers on Father’s Day!
Father’s Day is just around the corner, and when it comes to Papa, we never do anything special for them. So let us break this stereotype this time and gift our father a book with content on HIM.
5. Feel of Love
Feel of Love
6. The Ring Finger
7. Is Ignorance A Bliss
8. Quilling Thoughts
9. Stereotypes
10. Beauty of India
11. Inking Lafz
12. Love me Tomorrow
The title is enough in itself! Isn’t it?
13. My Marriage Story
14. Seasons of Heart
15. Starlight Smile
16. Stranger in Dusk
17. Why Should I Marry?
18. Poem Pill
19. Thoughts of New India – A book by Kalam foundation
Can You think of a memory attached to the ‘SCENT’ in life? It could be of anything, but indeed close to the heart. I Am Sure you must have more than ONE!
Our brain stores memories through everything we touch, experience, taste, smell, see and many other things. ”SMELL” certainly is an element that helps stored memories flash out.
I personally feel the SCENT – SMELL is the most vital memory trigger. Memories and emotions are a potent combination in themselves.
It can be a smell of perfume associated with ‘SOMEONE’ we are close with or a strong SCENT of lilacs. It could be the scent of the OCEAN or the Mud of the first rain after summer. It could be the smell of coffee or tea made by mother, first in the morning. Bouquet of your favourite food, perfumes, flowers, books and their pages, and so much more…
It can be connected to an event that has had a strong emotional impact on us in the past. So when we smell that particular smell, it can trigger an emotional response. This can happen even years down the road.
It’s a fact that our sense of smell is automatically heavily connected to our memory system. However, few such memories have been engraved in me for a lifetime. The scent that evokes memories for me is Eucalyptus. It has always remained close to my heart. It’s my absolute favourite scent, full of nostalgia, love and simpler times. My childhood memories are attached to it, with many functions, celebrations and gatherings.
Eucalyptus was used by my mother in the mixer of freshly homemade ‘Mehndi’ with a few other ingredients. No celebrations have been completed without applying them on our hands to date. The aroma of mehndi stays for days on hands and months in hearts.
Also, the smell of the gentle monsoon breeze takes me to the afternoon sitting outside our house on a porch with my mother and friends.
Anytime I smell such a familiar smell in life, I try to take it in me as much as I can as a storage for the upcoming days. It makes me feel alive and energetic.
Do you share with me what is yours? Would love to read your share!
Thinking aloud as of present situation is demanding that distance get us distant with all our relations during this pandemic when we all are quarantine? This tricky situation in all of our lives is what we are facing: does distance between two persons make them distant? Well, answers to this question vary based on personal experience and how they handle their relationship. The distance cannot be only in a romantic relationship. Let me make myself clear here! It can be between friends, siblings, parents, mother-daughter, teacher-students, boss-employees and all those who you can think of right now. Any relation that makes your soul happy. Makes your day brighter. Keeps you going for the day, week, month, year and life!
The first thing we need to know; is it’s gonna be hard.
Not seeing their smile or feeling them will be challenging, and you’ll get a sense of loneliness. But, if you’re lucky, so will be they. It means that both of you feel the same feeling that you want each other. So, keep up with them, ask about how their day was, and be affectionate, keeping your expectations at bay. You can get to know them more by calling on the phone, texting each other, and/or video calls, all perfect ways to maintain a strong relationship.
You’ll have to know that not many people can do a long-distance relationship because of the fact that they can’t see each other. But, if you can have a strong connection from a long-distance, you’ll find a love better than any relationship you can have with a person near you because once you finally see them in real life, the outcome is much better.
If you believe that you found the right person, are smart with your decision and can maintain loyalty to this person, then absolutely go for it.
Maturity. Long distance relationship works but it’s not for everyone. First, distance should never be a sole reason breaking up because many people made it work. Yes, many. Why to be immature about it by making it an issue for breaking up. What made it work for others is this…
“We both want it and so distance is irrelevant to us.”
Know what you want. Openness. What do you want from this relationship and does the other person is in mutual agreement? This is where both have to be open in sharing exactly what they desire from each other.
Whatever it is, there is no right or wrong.
There is only knowing what both want and they both agreed on it.
Being open, honest is going to make communication amazing. It will make the meeting face to face amazing. It will remove awkwardness. That means no lying. Keep it real because you will meet, and trust is a very fragile thing.
There will always be Insecurities What really gets in the way, is the maturity and next is the insecurities. You will always have insecurities. You can receive a text or an email and take it in the wrong way. So, issues like jealousy, possessiveness strike in then your words or their words become mis constructed and feelings get hurt. Distrust starts to happen with lots of assumptions.
How do you then deal with such things?
Communication If people don’t have the time for communication then leave long distance alone. The distance is not then problem it’s maturity, insecurities and a lack of communication. Communication is needed for long distance to work. That’s where a lot of its success came from. If you feel frustrated waiting for call or message, figure it out with using technology. You can now chat, send private messages and text…
Trust The core of the long – distance relationship is fragile, and it’s called trust. At some point there must be trust. You need to trust someone and yes, it is easier said than done when we get insecure people, carrying a lot of baggage who ghost on people.
Focus on nurturing your relationship not ego, tricks, manipulation and jealousy. Make every communication count.
It’s not easy to trust but there comes a point that if you want it to grow, then trust is the next factor that needs to happen.
Conversation Don’t follow the mainstream because they all say talk to all like you do with everyone else. Because they all the same…
There is a language. You can call it decency. This is most powerful tool. It makes the conversation amazing, exciting and always happening.
The art of conversation has truly been lost. Mainstream and many authors have watered it down to appeal to perceptions that is favoured by their social peers. It does a disservice to many couples and lovers around the world because they struggle with conversation.
It’s a skill to not be taken lightly.
Let’s free ourselves from the boundaries we have set. Break the walls. Communicate and spread the love by expressing our feelings. We never know ‘Kal ho na ho’ (today is all we have)!
Pairs! I was thinking aloud by repeating the word teams in my mind, and suddenly my slothful daughter from the couch in front of me – thanks to quarantine, all of a sudden screamed ‘Mamma do you know how many pairs we have in our living room’?
Raising my head from my laptop with surprise, I asked her What? She, utterly bored in the afternoon, got up and started explaining to me in the most confident manner like – have conquered the highest peak of Mount Everest in replying to me back. See Mamma, we have
Two same photo frames on wall
Two Same Chandelier on roof
Two same Stickers on wall
Two Rabbits
Two Show Piece
Wall Stickers and Frames
Eagles
Teddy’s
With this now, she started joking around after some serious talk that also we have two doors, two windows, two chairs and much more… Innocently, she has touched the topic with essence to think over for all of us. I had no choice left but to agree with her. We both then laughed our hearts out! She filled me up with pride about her observations skills. Staying more than a decade in the same house, I never thought this way and today, when I wanted a write-up on Pairs, she not only saved me but gave me my article!
But this definitely left me with deep thinking about how important Pairs are! Was this a coincident or mistakenly coincidence that happened with me! Is this indicating me further to think of for my personality, that how important it is to have a pair – a Soulmate! Now, partner, I don’t only mean married couples! No! It could be anything or any relation. Friends, siblings, couples, parents, and so much more! We are often in pairs with someone for emotional ground and others for spiritual.
In reality, on a border scale, aren’t we all pair up with something or other in our lives. Emotionally, spiritually and in many different ways, we depend on a partner! To make us feel complete, confident, the reason to be happy, look forward to and much more…
The word “Life” is as deep as it gets. Life is a tough place to tackle, and conquering all the battles on your own is a big challenge. However, given that we are human, it follows that “doing life” is made more accessible if it is “Shared” & “Paired”.
I have witnessed life on the streets watching from my balcony, which has wholly gone quiet now due to Covid19. ‘Stay Home, Stay Safe’ is the motto going on across the globe. Everyone has started participating in this activity, understanding the seriousness of the present condition.
City Resting
I recall the days when we have to spend time here. Family talking a walk. My daughter is cycling with her friends. Our family friends gathered and chit-chatted with playing a few games. A group of ladies sitting and chatting with munching. Children playing football and badminton. A street full of life and now craving for life!
I pray this calamity comes to an END, and we get our life – our routines back!
A home is a reflection of the soul. You go anywhere in the world, but home is the place you start missing in a couple of days. Home gives me a feeling of being alive, safe, secure and complete. It allows me to grow with all my insecurities and shortcomings. It’s like a cacoon for me – whenever I am sad, lost, scared, it’s a place for me to retreat to. I want to thank my husband for enabling me to fulfil my dream of decorating my home as per my will, making it a paradise. My soul is attracted to my home like flowers are attracted to the sun to grow…
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